How To Stop The Tears

[Tricia23]

Hello....I could really use anybodys advice about my current situation..Here is my story:

 

I began dating my boyfriend Eric in 2002...Things were incredible. I couldn't have asked for anything better. But then in about 2005 things weren't going so well. I thought things through and I told him I needed a break for a while. So he agreed. During this break I began seeing somebody else for abour 2 months. Eric found out about it and was devastated about it all. After some time and alot of talking we decided to get back together. It was rough but we made it.

 

After that things were great again, but then as recently as March of 2006 things were going nowhere with us again, so I took a break. I made new friends and saw other people, and I even lost feelings for Eric at one point for about 2 weeks or so. I didn't think we were going to work out so I tried to look past him and move on. That didn't work out too well. My heart turned around and felt those feelings all over again. When I wanted to tell him my mind was set and I loved him the worst possible thing happened. He told me HE lost feelings for me. He didn't feel the same way he did before.

 

I was in shock and that felt like a knife through my heart. I begged and begged for another chance and he was set on it being over between us. I felt it in my heart not to give up. So I set up a romantic evening for us to try and help rekindle anything, but for him it did not work. He still had nothing. He said he wants to be friends and not see each other as much to see if he can get those feelings back. I think he is very unsure about his feelings for me. Its hard for me to sit there and just be friends with him. We have shared 3 1/2 years together and its too hard. I love him and my tears won't stop flowing for him.

 

 

What I'm wondering is if Eric will ever see the light. Will he ever realize what he left behind? Is it possible his feelings will come back like mine did? Is it really over? I need any help and any advice. Its absolutely killing me. I love him and I can't stop thinking about him.....Please help me stop my tears......

[lostmike]

Tricia,

I don't have answers, as time is the only one that does. BUT, read my post and it may help a little. I tried to cram 6 years into a "short" post, but it's still long. After 3 1/2 years together and 2 months apart, I would say he HAS to have feelings still for you. Right now if I found out my ex had a new b/f it would destroy me. Absolutely. He has probably been hurt so badly by this he's scared to death to put himself out there again. I am scared at this point to call my ex even though it's what I want and what she's told me numerous times to do!

Do look after yourself right now. Start writing in a journal. Wriite anything. Poems, letters, even just journal entries spilling your guts on what happened, what was wrong, what was right, what you are feeling, what you think he's feeling, anything! Just write! It will help you sort a lot out and one day might come in handy in the future! Trust me on this one! I think what you can do from here is to first respect yourself. Remember the old country song (I think it was Willie)...Know when to hold 'em, know when to fold 'em, and know when to walk away. Keep that in mind constantly! Please! Be there for this guy. Not too much, but enough so he knows you're there. Don't be tooo mopey and sad, etc., but be there. If he'll hang out with you, make it good! You don't have to jump his bones everytime, in fact, don't do it all. Be sure he has something to want. You need to find a way to treat this like a new relationship. It's tough, but that's what needs to be done. Remember, in new relationships, it's the mystery that attracts us. What are they thinking, what are they doing, did they like me, did they have fun, what would it be like to kiss them, etc... these feelings will/ can be there even for the two of you that were together for 3+ years! He knows how you feel, so take it from there. Think of the rubberband effect. The more you pull him towards you, the farther away he goes. BUT if you push him (just a little, not too much), it's instinct to come back for him. Be patient, be persistent, but this will only work if he lets it work. Meaning he has to be open to seeing you, talking to you, etc...

No one hates this damn saying more than me, but if it's meant to be, it will. That doesn't mean you don't put your end of the effort in, but if you have been doing that and nothing is happening, well, go back to Willie's song...Know when to hold 'em, know when to fold 'em, and know when to walk away!...

Let me know what happens and I'll try to help you as much as possible since I kind of went through the same thing 4 years ago with my ex I'm missing now!

Mike

[norajane]

Twice you've told him you needed a break, and the first time you started a relationship with someone else. That's going to be rough on a guy. You weren't sure of your feelings about him, so it's not surprising that he would be unsure of his feelings for you after that.

 

Give him a chance to take a break now that HE's the one who needs it. He's hurt and he's probably telling himself to get over you...you keep leaving him...how could he trust that THIS time, you really mean it when you say you want to be with him.

 

You've let him know how you feel; if he gets past the hurt and wariness, he'll reach out to you. Don't push it, though. Respect his feelings. Don't back so far away that he begins to wonder if you're feelings really are fickle, though.

 

The tears...there's nothing wrong with tears. Tell yourself it's ok to cry, but you'll save it for one hour each night when you get to wallow in it, and then you'll stop. Plan to do this each day, just for an hour. The rest of the time when you get the urge to cry, remind yourself that you'll cry later when it's time, but now, you will do xyz.

 

And yes, write. Write it out as much as possible. It does help.

 

Good luck, sweets.

[Tricia23]

Mike,

 

I can't thank you enough for your advice. It really helped me alot. I am so sorry to hear that you are going through something similar to me. It hurts like hell and I hate that saying to "If it is meant to be it will be" I know I need to be patient, but honestly it is so very hard. Its Saturday night and I'm at home crying and being sad and he is out with his friends doing only God knows what, and that right there kills me. He said that he's not interested in any other girls nor is he looking for any relationships right now. I know I should push away from him to see what the possiblities are but I just want to pick up the phone and call him, but I need to leave him be. He seems so unsure about this all. Sometimes he tells me its over for good and then last night he seemed to be sad because I turned it around on him saying "I'm done" and he kept saying " Can't we still be friends to see where it goes" I mean its so difficult to cope with. I just want to be strong for myself, but it all reality its hard. I hope and pray to God everynight for some sort of sign. I also ask for God's help in any way possible.

 

 

I hope things work out for you as well. When I read your letter it seemed that she still cares alor for you and it seems like there is a part of her that wants to still be with you. I wish you nothing but the best. Lets help each other be strong in our time of need. Thank you again for everything, and I look forward to talking to you again soon.......

 

 

 

 

Tricia

[lostmike]

Tricia,

Hey, that's funny 'cause I was doing the same thing last night. DIdn't want to go out, but found as the night went on, I wished I had. I was wondering the same thing. Listen to me, you sit there and wonder what he's doing, who he's with, etc..., well if you don't speak to him, I PROMISE you he is wondering the same thing. Don't tell him everything when you speak to him, ie.. don't tell him you sat at home thinking of him all night, don't tell him you went on a date with your girlfriends, just tell him it was a date. By all means, keep yourself busy. Go out with your girlfriends and have fun. Try to. That doesn't mean you have to go out and hook up or anything, but if a guy comes up and wants to talk to you or buy you a drink, let him! Let him help your ego. Sounds like your guy got a little taste of freedom and now he wants to explore it a little, but only while you are his 'friend'...on the back burner just in case he decides he wants you back. That's fine if you want to be there or keep him there, but until the 2 of you can time it right where you both want eachother at the same time, don't hold yourself back from anything. It will still hurt when you're out, but try to have fun and push that hurt away...just for a little bit.

You mentioned something about things working out..they will work out...one way or another. I know for me and for you everything will be fine in the long run...one way or another...with or without our loves! Believe that. Granted, right now we're both hoping it will be WITH our others, but time will tell. Listen to this and it might help a little on what to do and what not to do:

There was a man that was forced to the roof of his house by rising flood waters. He was on his roof and the waters kept rising and rising. He kept praying to God to help him. "Save me, God", the man cried out. Shortly after a boat came by and the man on the boat yelled to the man, "Jump in, the waters are going to continue to rise!". The man on the roof replied, "Go on, I have faith that God will save me!". THe rescuer tried desperately to coerce the man into the boat, but as time went by, the rescuer knew he could save others, so he went on. Long story short, the waters rose and rose and the man on the roof drowned. The moral of the story is that the man asked for help from God, so God sent a boat. The boat was God trying to save the man, but the man just couldn't see it this way, he only thought God himself would pluck him from the rooftop and put him to safety. Now here's the hard part...knowing when God is talking to you and when He's trying to help you. You have to quiet your life to hear this and when you are able to quiet down your soul and mind, you will begin to see your situation more clearly. I'm constantly referring to my situation as a mud puddle. When the puddle has sat for a few days, the mud is settled on the bottom and the water's on top. You can see to the bottom just fine. BUT if step in that puddle, all the mud gets mixed up and you can't see anything. Think of this as your life right now. Try to let the mud settle to the bottom and the water to clear up. You'll see things more clearly and be able to either find a clearer route to your relationship, or just see that you should move on.

I do wish you the best of luck and just know that you're not alone. I know things hurt right now, but one way or another they will get better.

If you need to talk, feel free to write me either here or on my email at [email protected]. I'll listen and help any way I can.

Take care, chin up, and go do something!!

Talk soon,

Mike:D

[Tricia23]

Mike,

 

I really enjoy reading your responses, because it seems to help me out. The way im feeling now is I just don't want to wake up because when I do, the pain comes back. Whenever I want to eat, I think of him and get nauseous. Its all so hard for me. I went through a bad break up after 1year and 1/2 and I thought that was the end of the world. But when Eric came along it changed everything. My family saw how I was suffering and they said Eric was a gift from my deceased grandfather. He sent me my angel.

 

 

Everywhere I look, or everywhere I go, I think of him and something reminds me of him and that doesn't help one bit. It makes me feel better to just be a home alone in my room with nobody bothering me. I know I should be out and having fun but I just really don't feel like it. I don't want to give up. I want to believe that deep down in my heart it will all be ok. But I don't know what Eric will think.

 

I was hoping never to go through this again. I was ready to start planning my wedding with him, but I guess this last break broke us completely. Its just when we talked a few days ago he sounded sincere, but theres a part of me that is waiting for the worst. I honestly dont know what to do and I know there isn't much advice for me, but I just want to get out of this sadness and be ok. But all I want is my Eric back...........

 

 

Mike, for all you do for others, taking the time to give great advice, you will be blessed with happiness....I know it will all work out for you. Just keep believeing, never give up and NEVER give up on something you can't go a day without thinking about...........

 

 

 

Thank You So Very Much......

 

Tricia

[lostmike]

Tricia,

No problem. Sometimes I don't have anyone that will listen and I have a HUGE family (1 brother, 4 sisters, and my mom), so I know what it's like to try and figure things out on your own. That's why I came to these message boards. Yes things will work out for me. They will for you too.

See, your previous relationship ended and you thought that was it. Never gonna be loved again, never going to love again, etc...then a new guy came along. It's tough because I'm not telling you to forget Eric. I would never say that. Only you know what you want. One of the hardest things I've ever had to do in my life is listen to my heart. REALLY listen. That's why I mentioned about the muddy water. Right now it's hard for you to do because everything is so mixed up. Nothing about all of this is easy and I don't think it ever gets easier. What we hope is to find someone that has been down the same road and will have the same level of commitment we have. Just don't ever forget what this feels like so you can do your best not to do it to anyone else. See the thing about love is that it can be so fair to some and yet so cruel to others.

You need to quiet all the crap in your head and your heart so you can Listen! When you do, you'll see things more clearly. I'm not saying you'll figure out a way to win him back, or to move on free and clear, I'm just saying you'll be able to see things as they are in a clearer way.

What it all comes down to is you and Eric. Be honest with him, but don't spill your guts. Be available, but not too available. You need to have a life too. There has to be some mystery of you for him to be attracted to. That's how you two started out right? Sparks, interest, mystery. This is all great, but it only works if there is something there on his side, which like I said, after 3.5 years together, those feelings don't just vanish in 2 months. As much as I still love Jess, I have tasted freedom and I like it. BUT I also know how much she means to me and though sometimes I think I would like to just be single, what we had and the feelings I have still for her far outweigh any thoughts of being single. I have met a lot of girls, some attractive, some not, but I'm not ready to give up entirely just yet either.

No, if you aren't ready to let go, then don't. Just don't forget what I said...Know when to hold 'em, know when to fold 'em, know when to walk away. Of course he's referring to cards, but life also. I use this for relationships. There may come a point where you just get soooo emotionally exhausted that you just want it all to end. If and when that happens (it will happen eventually either way), it's the most bittersweet thing you'll ever experience. THere's no two ways around this Tricia. What we are going through sucks! There's no other way to say it, there's no way to sweeten it up. It sucks. And it's gonna suck for awhile...either way. If Eric decides he does want to be with you, it's still going to suck at times because each time you two part (after a date, after just hanging out, whatever), you will wonder if that's the last time you'll see him again. When Jessica and I got back together after our first break (1.5 - 2 months), each time we'd leave each other, I would cry because I didn't know if I'd see her again. BUT for another 4 years after that, things were awesome! She is about your age..she's 24 (25 in Nov), and I had been dating her since she was 18. I was 24, and now am 30. She wonders if there's more out there, since she never really got to date around. I understand this as much as it hurts me. I just know better. I didn't date around a whole lot either because if I wasn't interested, I just didn't see the point of wasting time.

Thank you for your warm wishes. Things will be fine for both of us. I know you don't feel like doing things, but you have to make yourself. Eat a little bit. Think of things this way, if you really take care of yourself...gym, tan, new clothes, etc... the next time Eric sees you he will be like DAAAAAMMMMNNN! I promise you that. Trust me as a guy, I know! Maybe this will even help him think extra hard about being apart from you. Either way, you will look great (er) and feel better too about yourself, with or without Eric. I have a feeling Eric will come back around. Fall off the radar for a couple of days and see if he doesn't call you or text you. I bet he does. In the meantime, I'll keep checking on her so if you want to vent more, or ask questions, I'll keep checking in to be some sort of 'shoulder' for you. You're not alone in this.

NOW, I have a question for you...

Jess and I dated for 4 months before we had our first time together. It was her first time. That day is coming up and I think I should send her a card, possibly some flowers. What do you think? We are sort of on speaking terms, but I have made it clear to her that I am not/will not/ and certainly cannot be her friend, so she knows where I stand. I thought this meant a lot more to a girl than it seems to with her. I am the only guy she's been with. I'm definitely sending her a card, but I'm wondering about the flowers. Too much? The day once meant a lot to her, but now I just want to recognize it and let her know it is still special to me too. Let me know what you think! Thank you!

Chin up Tricia. Things will get better. Keep writing in that journal and keep me posted!

Mike

[Tricia23]

Mike,

 

 

As far as your question about if you should get a flower for her or not, maybe a single rose would be a good idea with a card. Its just a little something you can send her to know that you remembered that special time you two shared together. It will show her you are still thinking about her and that you haven't forgot that day. If that were me, I'd be very happy with that. I hope that helps answer your question.

 

 

As far as today.....Its been just ok. I'm still sitting around sulking and crying but i guess thats normal. Plus I start school tomorrow so im just kind of relaxing and kicking back.

 

I appreciate your words again, the more i hear from you the better I feel. I'm just not going to give up on him. I know i hurt him in the past and maybe he's just not sure about giving it another try. So im letting him be and see what happens. I mean thats what he asked for and thats what im doing. As hard as it is, I am.

 

I also am going to take your advice about the tanning new clothes etc. I'm going to take myself to the salon and get my hair done. And maybe whenever the next time I see him with some new clothes and a new hair style that might help. I hope it does.

 

Having you to talk to and us helping one another is really helpful, I mean I also have a big family and my mom is there for me, I just feel I need some more advice. I don't really want my family to know what is going on because I would feel so weird. They really liked him and Im just not ready to tell anybody anything just yet. So I just keep on praying and praying and asking God for all the help I could get. If I am blessed with another chance I will give it my all and that would be it for me.

 

 

When I last talked to him saturday morning, I told him I would wait for him no matter how long that is. If I have to wait till we are in heaven together again I told him I would. He said he doesn't want to put me in anymore pain, but I'm not giving up.......

 

 

 

Your shoulder is all I need...And you have mine in return.

 

 

Your great Mike, and I'm sure Jess will really see how great of a person you. You've shared so much together and after she sees the world and what other people are really like, she will come right back and think about how amazing you were to her....Thats what I did and I'm sure she will do the same....

 

 

Thank You again....

 

 

Tricia

[dgiirl]

Tricia, you broke up with him twice now. There's a reason why you broke up with him, and I think you have to examine that reason. I think no matter how much you care about him, it's just not enough to make this relationship work. Ask yourself honestly if the pain you are feeling is because he's now rejected you, or because you truely love him. If you truely loved him, I dont think you would have broken up with him twice. I think it's time to let him go and move on.

[superconductor]

Many years ago I had a girlfriend who took some sort of perverse pride in that she was always the one to initiate a breakup. No fellow ever broke up with her; she always beat them to the punch.

 

I wonder if the same thing is happening here, where Tricia23 broke up with this unlucky dude twice, then gets all upset and bent out of shape when she's not the one who did this latest breakup.

 

Unless I miss my guess, it's not love that she misses. It's her pride.

[Tricia23]

Thanks for your response dgiirl, but we never broke up, we seperated. We still saw each other but a few things were diffrent.... People break up to see if your relationship is salvageable, and thats what we did. This is only our 2nd break that I took from him in March. We weren't on the same page so we tried to get our lives in order and then we would see where we stood.

 

I guess the break was my fault. I know your just tryin to help, but I am not upset because I got rejected....He and I are still friends, he just needs some time and that I respect....I believe everything happens for a reason and I'm not giving up on him.

 

supercondoctor- Thanks for your reply, but you are defenitely wrong, read my above response to her, we did not break up, we seperated. I have my pride and I always have. Things happen and I'm not upset about being rejected. I miss him and like I said I'm not giving up....

[norajane]

we never broke up, we seperated

 

I told him I needed a break for a while. So he agreed. During this break I began seeing somebody else for abour 2 months. Eric found out about it and was devastated about it all. After some time and alot of talking we decided to get back together. It was rough but we made it.

 

After that things were great again, but then as recently as March of 2006 things were going nowhere with us again, so I took a break. I made new friends and saw other people, and I even lost feelings for Eric at one point for about 2 weeks or so. I didn't think we were going to work out so I tried to look past him and move on.

 

A break where you started seeing other people sounds like a break-up to me...and probably to your boyfriend, too.

 

Just because you saw it differently, doesn't mean HE saw it the same way you did. It was very hurtful to him, and I'm sure it made him see YOU differently. Give him time. He might come around.

[dgiirl]

Tricia, I see very little difference between separating and breaking up. Both mean time apart from each other because things are not working out. Separating is just a kinder way of breaking up with someone. It's less "final". But if things were going well, you wouldnt need to separate in the first place. Basically, you broke up with him, and started to miss him when he was away, so you both got back together. Then after being together, you broke up with him _again_. If the only way to have a good relationship is to not spend time with each other, then you have to reevaluate that relationship. You said it yourself, you're not on the same page. You really have to examine why, and accept the fact that you two are not on the same page, and you cannot expect him to change. Taking these on again off again breaks in a relationship is not healthy! And maybe next time, whether you two get back together, or you meet someone else, before you take these breaks, really communicate with one another and fix the problems! One day, you might get married, and taking "breaks" is unacceptable. So learn from this lesson now to help prepare you for the future.

[lostmike]

Tricia,

Glad to hear you start school tomorrow. I think that will help tremendously. It will help keep you busy and put your mind on other things. If nothing else, it will help make the transitional time easier. Transition into what? Who knows, but if it's a transition into you and Eric getting things sorted out and getting back together, great, if not, that will be good too...sooner or later.

I'm here and checking in. Don't forget that some responses will be jaded from being hurt, but nonetheless, everyone is just trying to help. You need to sort through all of the advice people give and apply what you can to your own experience. Walking away is easy. Sometimes though, it's just what you have to do. You'll know if you have to. Follow your heart and quiet your life. Oh, and write like crazy in your journal. If you ever have to go through this bs again (I hope you don't), it will help you tons! Trust me!

I'll check in on you now and then.

Take care, good luck with Eric, good luck with school!

Sincerely,

Mike

[Tricia23]

Thank you all for your replies. I will take them all into consideration.

 

Its funny because this evening my phone rang and to my suprise Eric called me. I was in complete shock to hear from him. I have been so sad all day and I didn't want to sound sad on the phone but I couldn't help it. I told him I didn't expect to hear from him today, and he said he just called to say hi. I broke down after we hung up...My mind is so confused now. What does that mean??? Does it mean he was thinking about me? Does it mean that he misses/missed me? Is him calling something good?? I don't know, but i just want to reach out to him and hold him in my arms.....It ended with ill talk to you later......

 

 

Gosh this all sucks......My tears defenitely have not stopped flowing thats for sure......

[lostmike]

Tricia,

It could mean a million things all of which I'm sure are flowing through your head right now. He could simply just be calling to say HI. OR he could be thinking of you. Most likely you are on his mind. How long did you talk? What did you talk about? Let the mud settle and clear your head. Think about what it meant. How did he sound? Did you write down what was said and HOW it was said?

I would have recommended letting it go to voicemail. Let him call once or twice and wonder what you're doing. IF theres still a possibility as far as he's concerned, it's all about timing on your part, but no matter what, no matter how much it hurts, you have to be true to your heart. If this thing works, it will be because you were true to your heart. If it doesn't and you have to walk away, let it be known that you did what you could and followed your heart. One day that will allow you to rest easy. Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying it's over. No one knows that.

Remember that people will tell you to walk away because it is much easier than hurting and 'fighting' for what you want.

Hang in there kiddo and keep your chin up. He's at the very least thinking of you. Write in your journal I told you to keep. Just keep writing.

I'll say a prayer for you tonight that whatever is best for you happen. WHATEVER is best. Sometimes that's tough for us because of what we want. I do this constantly. I ask for what's best, but I still want what I want.

Find a reason to smile. I'm sure you have plenty. Get some rest tonight, I know it'll be tough, but cry yourself to sleep if you have to, just get some rest. You'll need it! I'm here and I'm thinking of you! No word from Jess, I saw her on AIM, but I didn't talk to her. I'm just gonna wait. If it's meant to be it will. I'll do my part, but I can't MAKE her love me again, but I can try!

Take care and talk to you soon,

Mike

[Tricia23]

Hi Mike,

 

Well I was just sitting here on my computer and all of a sudden my phone rings....I have a set ringtone for him, so I know when he calls. My heart started to race. He told me he just wanted to call and say hi. And I said i wasn't expecting to hear from you today. He asked me what my plans were for this evening and I just said I was going to hang around home, maybe go out, but I said I start school tomorrow so i wasn't sure. Then he said good luck tomorrow with school and that I have a good day. He sounded friendly also. Then it ended with I'll talk to you later. And that was it.

 

 

I so badly want to pick up my phone and call him, but I know I shouldn't. This all just makes me wonder about so many things. I know I should just let it be, but I have not been so worked up over a guy before. He is my one true love and the only one I want. I am glad that he is thinking of me, but I want him to think of me all the time......

 

I'm sure everything will be just fine with you ad Jess as well....I really feel it in my heart that she will come around and see what she really has right in front of her. You deserve it too, because you are taking the time to help me cope with my situation. No good deed goes unrewarded...And you truly should be blessed with happiness...Thank you again...

[lostmike]

Tricia,

Okay, now it's been since Saturday since you last spoke to him right? And yesterday was another time. Did he call you both times? If yes, I say let him call you once more. This time let it go to voicemail, give it a day and then return his call. Give it at least a full day. If you feel you must pick up the call, go ahead. Sounds like things were fine. That's 2 days in a row. Not too bad. Throw yourself into school and it will help time to pass more quickly between when you talk to Eric. Be Patient! These things don't come together overnight. I know it hurts, but be patient and loving towards him. If he's worth it, he'll figure out what a great girl he's missing up and come back. Keep me informed and I'll do the same on my situation. I wish you the best, just have faith that the best is exactly what will happen!

Have a great day!

Mike

[Tsiehta]

Yeah, my ex gf told me she just wanted to separate for a bit. I wonder if she tells her new bf that she and I are just separated while she's having sex with him.

[Tricia23]

Mike,

 

Well today is a new day and I feel a little bit better, not just about everything with Eric, but just things in general. After our call I recieved a phone call from a modeling agency that wants to put me in californina for quite a while for some modeling oportunities. I'm not sure what I want to do yet, but it was late at night and I wanted to tell Eric, so I called him (even though I know I shouldn't have) I told him everything and it didn't seem to faze him that I would be gone forever from him, with me living in california. He was real quite while I was explaning everything to him. He said a few times that he really didn't want me to go. Then I said to him "Well, youll be fine without me....and my shock to hear him say "Well what if I won't be fine without you" It made me feel go in a way.

 

So for now we ended our 2 hour long conversation with we will see what happens with us and him still needed some time. Its all honestly a confusing mess, but i can be patient and just see what happens. I will miss him so very much if I do decide to go. I still have some time, but we will see.

 

 

I hope maybe he mite realize that I will really be gone. He did say at one point when I told him i was leaving he said he really didn't feel what he should be feeling, but then towards the end I think that mite have changed. I don't know.

 

 

But for now im just giving it time. I'm going on everyday and I have school to worry about now. So im still keeping my head up and hoping that he will come back to me....

 

 

Thanks Mike Your An Angel!! And Good Luck to you as well...Keep me informed on your situation as well!!

 

 

Tricia

 

 

 

Tsiehta- I'm sorry to hear that about your girlfriend, but thats not what I did. hope things work out for you. If she's doing that to you, maybe its best if you move on....Good Luck

[Tricia23]

Wow....As I was on my way to the hair salon to get myself a new "look" my phone rings AGAIN! and who is it?? Eric....He called to say hi and to see how my first day of class was!!! I was shocked, I was being myself and sounded happy etc...He said Hi, just wanted to see how school was...etc then asked what I was doing today and he told me he was running errands etc...Then he said "Well, if you need anything just give me a call. I said thanks you too, And it ended with that.....I mean it sounds like there is some small inch of progress there....????

 

 

Well thats about it for now. I'm not really expecting and phone calls tonite, but who knows.... I'll keep you posted!!

 

 

Hope things are well with you!!!

 

Talk to you soon.....

 

 

~Tricia

[lostmike]

Tricia,

Sounds good! You definitely put a fear in him of losing you. Don't discount the modeling gig though. You still have to do what's best for you. Be careful of L.A., though, that's a tough town and it can get you! My older brother and I lived there for awhile pursuing acting. I came back and he stayed! Anyway, see...keep your head up no matter what. You're doing fine and you will be fine! Let me know what happens next. I think I'm gonna make a call tonight. I'll let you know!

Good luck and keep your chin up!!!!

Talk to you soon,

Mike

[Tricia23]

Well I have an update for you....

 

Yesterday (Monday)....Got another phone call from Eric just to say hi etc....

It was a good day yesterday, not too much crying but a little here and there.

 

Today (Tuesday) Things were good. I went to school, went to the cemetary to visit my grandfather who passed away a few years ago. Then on my way home I was kinda sad so I wanted to call him. I did. I know I shouldn't have but I did. We talked for a while and he said he was about to call me too just to say hi. So we chatted for a while, and I couldn't help but cry because I was sad from being at the cemetary and of course talking to him. So we talked and of course I spilled my heart out again. We talked about everything and my trip to California. I told him I would NOT even think about going if things turned out ok with us. He kept telling me that he didn't want me to go over and over. He was scared for me and he said he would miss me. Then during the end of our conversation he said something that suprised me. He said well Tricia, you have to know that I am trying to see if we could give it another chance by calling you everyday. I said WOW...Then he asked me to hang out with him on Thursday, we have dinner and a movie planned!! So our conversation ended with "We are taking it slow, but we both want to give it another chance......!!! That lifted my mood so fast. I really do feel better but I need to just calm down and not jump to things so fast....So this evening turned out to be a nicer one since 2 weeks ago on Sunday....I'm just going to do my best to be me and enjoy my time with him.....I finally smiled today for the first time in 2 weeks!!

 

I guess praying and seeing my grandfather really helped......See just never give up on prayer and God will lead you to the path of happiness....

 

 

 

I hope your phone call went well!!! Let me know how things went, and how things are going with you!!

 

 

Thanks!!

 

Tricia

[lostmike]

Tricia,

Awesome! I was nervous when I saw you had posted again. I got worried, but then I read your message and a huge smile came to my face! I'm so happy for you. Yes, be careful, go kinda slowly and things should be just fine! He misses you and its no secret you miss him too! I hope this is it and things work out for you both. Modeling is always there and if they want you bad enough, you can always travel!!!

I wish you the best!!

 

As far as my phone call. Yes, I called. She answered in a surprisingly good mood, which made me nervous. She asked if I was psychic. I said why, and she said she had her phone in her hand dialing my number! She asked me what I had been up to and where I've been hanging out and with whom. I told her I have pretty much been staying home since all my buddies went back to law school. She said shed like to get lunch or something and I said definitely, just give me a call when you know what your schedule is like and I'll make time. So we talked for about 30 minutes, no big deal, but I think she's def. missing me and I hope that's the case. I am a little confused as to what to do next. I don't want to be too forward, but at the same time, I don't want to seem too distant either. I want her to know I am still interested and that I still love her.

Any suggestions? Anyway, let me know how the date goes! I hope and am sure it will go great! Just follow your heart and keep that chin up! I'm so happy for you!

Take care and talk to you soon!

Mike

[Tricia23]

Hi Mike

 

Well, I'll do just as you said...Take things real slow. I want this to be my last relationship. I don't think I could bare the pain of being without him. I love him so much and I really hope this could lead to forever.....Talking with you has really helped me out alot. You will never know how grateful I am for you!!

 

As far as your phone call!! It sounded like a good talk you guys had! See she still thinks about you if she was about to dial your number!! Thats great. And lunch sounds good too...If she doesn't call in a day or so, send her a text message or call her and have a lunch date set and ask her if that day/time will be ok with her. I'm sure it will be..I really feel in my heart things will work out with you too as well...We both deserve to be happy and if being with our exes makes us happy then we shouldn't give up...Thats great progress for you!! I'm happy for you as well!

 

 

Keep me updated and I will do the same!!

 

 

Have a great week!!

 

 

Tricia