Charisma Posted August 20, 2006 Posted August 20, 2006 Hi all, I wanted to pose a question...how does one know if their first date's been a success? I went out with a guy who was an acquaintance of mine that I met 4 years ago. I always thought he seemed nice but nothing seemed to really go anywhere when we first met. The date went well (at least I thought). We had a cup of coffee together and chatted for awhile about ourselves. We shared a couple of laughs and then he walked me to my car and kissed me passionately on the lips. Normally I don't kiss on the first date, but since I already knew him from the past I made an exception. I asked him if he enjoyed himself and if he wanted to do it again and he said, "Yes". It's been nearly 3 weeks and I haven't heard from him. I know he's been busy and out of town but I'm beginning to wonder.... If he had such a great time...why hasn't he called? Is it wrong for me to call or should I just assume if he's interested he'll call? If he does call should I even bother to talk to him again, since it's been so long?
hardcharger7 Posted August 21, 2006 Posted August 21, 2006 Have you ever thought that he may be asking himself the same questions you are? If you want to call him, do it. You've got nothing to lose. Personally, i like when a girl calls.
Adunaphel Posted August 21, 2006 Posted August 21, 2006 I'd say call him, you have nothing to lose. Is it wrong for me to call or should I just assume if he's interested he'll call? There's nothing wrong in calling him, and at least you'll hopefully know if he's interested. The fact that he has disappeared for three weeks does not sound very encouraging, but then, again, I have known some guys who would not call for a month or two even if they were interested.
serial muse Posted August 22, 2006 Posted August 22, 2006 I have known some guys who would not call for a month or two even if they were interested. for real??? wow, i find this incomprehensible. i mean, seriously, how interested could they be?
Adunaphel Posted August 22, 2006 Posted August 22, 2006 for real??? wow, i find this incomprehensible. i mean, seriously, how interested could they be? No kidding, but I admit that I find it as incomprehensible as you. It happened to me one time and it also happened to a couple of female friends of mine, and a male friend called a girl he went on a date with more than a month later - meanwhile he had been trying to get into a relationship with another girl he was more interested in. When he realized that things were not working out, he called the lady he had been on a date with more than a month before, just to find out that she was not interested in him anymore. The guy who called me gave me some excuse about having been busy. Perhaps he actually was. My guess is that he also had some more interesting (more interesting to him! ) woman around. But I cannot tell for sure. I guess it also can happen to go on a date, realize that you are not really ready for a relationship in that moment, and call the person after a while when you are ready again because you liked him/her and enjoyed the date. Which is the explanation one of my female friends got. What is incomprehensible to me is that you *could* make a phone call after the date, anyway.
Rikka Posted August 22, 2006 Posted August 22, 2006 Yeah the three week thing is a bit sketchy. I say call him, what do you have to lose? At least you will know what's up one way or another.
allina Posted August 22, 2006 Posted August 22, 2006 After a first date I expect the guy to call me/contact me later that night to say he had a good time and make sure I got home safe, or the next day to say he had a good time and that he'd like to do it again. I know it seems like a lot for some but, if a guy is interested he will naturally do it, it's always happened with good dates for me. Not contacting you for three weeks shows that though he probably did have a good time, seeing you again is not of importance to him.
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