Guest Posted August 19, 2006 Posted August 19, 2006 I live with my bf of 4 years. We were highschool sweethearts and are now at university together. I'm only 19 and he is 21. we have had many problems in the past 4 motnhs but have also had a ton of good times. He wanted to take a break because he wasnt sure if 'he loved me as much as i love him' and didnt know if he could just be with me for the rest of his life. We decided on spending 2 weeks apart (he went to our hometown and i stayed in our apartment). It has been a couple days and he has called and said he wants to be with me but i told him we are keeping this break. But now i am not totally sure i want to be with him. I love him sooo much but i dont want to end up 40 with kids and decide i want to leave because i was NEVER single since i was 15. I want to marry him but i just dont know if i want to be with him right now and i know he feels the same way. I just dont want to lose him. what I'm asking is if we should get rid of the apartment, live seperatley as friends and still spend a LITTLE bit of time together for as long as it takes for us both to know we either want this forever or we dont want it at all? I'm really confused...
Guest Posted August 20, 2006 Posted August 20, 2006 well i just broke up with my highschool sweet heart of five years in june. We are 21 and had been together since 16. We both wanted to marry each other but be single for a while as well. So we palyed the friends game and hung out sometimes as friends, which led to us stil sleeping together, and then he slept with another girl because we were testing out single life. I was devistated this went on for 3 months the whole friends thing, but its hard to not hook up, and now our relationship is destroyed because it got to hard and i got to jelous of other girls and it was a mess if you want time a oart do it but dont be friends, just be apart and if you come back together great if not it was not meant to be. But friends right now bad idea. Take it from me i lost him now probably forever because being friends leads to big fights.
prncssfce9 Posted August 20, 2006 Posted August 20, 2006 my suggestion would be to just not live together. i made the mistake of living with someone and it puts you in the situation that you question if you are with them b/c you want to be or b/c you have to be. maybe these feelings you are both having are from feeling like you are stuck together b/c you live together. live apart .. then when you ARE together you know it is b/c you want to be together not b/c you both live in the same place
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