cant stand this other guy trying to hit on my woman!

[RedneckRomeo]

Ok Ok - so technically she's not MY woman yet - but might as well be.

 

I been 'seeing' this girl for around 3 weeks now (talking every day and been going out together - just hanging out, talking and having fun, says she doesn't want serious yet, and she's cautious with her feelings right now because she has been hurt a lot in the recent past) and its been wonderful. We get along so well, and her friends and family like me too.

 

Lately this freak has been hitting on her, and I don't like it. She is friendly, so she doesn't just tell him to scram, but she doesn't like it much either - says he is 'ok' but annoying. He is getting to be such a pain - trying to call her and get her to go out with her and stuff - but even though she's not intrested in him, she is trying to be semi-friendly.

 

I need to find a way to show him that he needs to just go away and let her be without being too harsh. Any suggestions?

[superconductor]

Ask her if you'd like to take matters into your own hands before you do anything. Thumping the guy, even if he's a slimy creep, may make her run to him because women have a thing for the underdog.

 

However, if she gives you the OK to be a little more assertive in her defence, deal with it as you see fit.

 

But don't hit him in the face. You'll bust your hand.

[SoleMate]

I don't think it's fair to "thump" him if he has simply been talking to her in a friendly way or inviting her out. Sure, if he were pestering her after she told him to stay away, AND she gave you the go-ahead, you could take him out back and use WORDS to let him know to keep his distance.

 

But what it really boils down in real life is that both you and he are interested in pursuing the same woman...and she is accepting attentions from both of you. All's fair in love and war.

[RedneckRomeo]

I don't want to start a fight with him or anything just for talking to her, that would definitely not impress her. I had just been trying to stick closer to her, talk to her more and when he was around trying to get her to go out just kind of sit there and take it because I know she's not interested in him.

 

I'm confident he will lose the fight for her because, like I said, she thinks he's annoying and doesn't really want to talk to him (but is friendly so she does when he tries), and she talks to me every day and we go out a lot too. Her mom doesn't like him either - but she does like me. I know both her and her mom like me, so I got extra points there.

 

I'm just looking for either something I could do with her when he's around to tell him visually to back off, or else a good way to tell him that.

 

And where you say she is accepting both of our attention - maybe true, but my attention is being accepted willingly, and his only because she is friendly person and doesn't want to look like a b*tch (although she can be at times if you really get her mad).