miket389 Posted August 19, 2006 Posted August 19, 2006 I have a good question for all of you, im curious to see what kind of responses come back... I have a few other posts here about a recent relationship thats turned quite sour, and im still pretty heart broken, anyways my question is, this girl says she still wants to be with me, etc but i hear shes been dating this other kid ik, and has been denying it, ive talked to the kid and hes gone into detail about things, and when i bring it to her she denys it to me so maybe stupidly i believe her, idk what to do, my real question is all she does is deny it, and she doesn't really come around or make an attempt to see me or even be my friend so the question is, If she really wanted to be with me/ or even still had feelings, Wouldn't she come around more, Make an effort, or try to reassure me on the other guy that said that stuff? or is this one big head game shes playing with me for my attention?
princessa Posted August 22, 2006 Posted August 22, 2006 This sure sounds like a head game. Maybe she still has feelings for you though, so sometimes when her head's not all that straight she'll come up to you and tell you how she misses you and everything.. But she clearly still wants to be with the other kid, seeing as how they both protect whatever's going on between them. Maybe she's just really confused and doesn't know what she wants. But do you really want to be with somebody who will let you stress like that, and let you wonder if they wanna be with you or not? That's not right. If she was the right person for you she would show it with her actions, and act on getting the other kid out of the picture seeing as how it stresses you.
Author miket389 Posted August 22, 2006 Author Posted August 22, 2006 thanks for your input, I know this deep down inside, im not stupid but it helps to hear from others, i guess my hearts beating my brain into being blind, Ouch this really hurts i just want to find a nice girl and be happy, now if i can only get this wrench off of my heart sometime soon i hope. thanks a lot for your input
princessa Posted August 23, 2006 Posted August 23, 2006 You're probably just really infatuated with her. To help you think more rationally about the whole thing I suggest that you sit down and make a list of all of the things that make you love her. Then analyze it rationally. If the list sounds something like: 1. she's HOT 2. we have something "special"... that I just CANT describe 3. did I mention that she's hot Then you're clearly infatuated and it helps you see that there's no potential long-term since you don't even know who she really is. You list should sound more like: 1. Same values and beliefs about life 2. Similar / compatible career / future goals 3. Same family values 4. Mutual intellectual stimulation ... etc Look at what she's done recently to make your life BETTER.
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