toonicegirl Posted August 19, 2006 Share Posted August 19, 2006 when i was with my ex he was really busy....now we're kind of friends and he's even more busy but he finds time to go on my myspace profile everyday, read my blogs, post comments and send me messages on my cell, and more important is that he responds on mine like right away what i wanna say is: "BUSY" is just a stupid excuse if a guy is falling out of love ! Link to post Share on other sites
superconductor Posted August 19, 2006 Share Posted August 19, 2006 when you love you always find timewhat a load of dung Just like when the women say "no means no," when a man says he's busy he actually means he's busy. Any other assumption is just that; an assumption. Link to post Share on other sites
Author toonicegirl Posted August 19, 2006 Author Share Posted August 19, 2006 i dont think so... it's just an excuse .... there are guys that run big companies and they had time to call home and ask hows everything Link to post Share on other sites
superconductor Posted August 19, 2006 Share Posted August 19, 2006 i dont think so... it's just an excuse .... there are guys that run big companies and they had time to call home and ask hows everything Uh, yea. That's because guys who run big companies have dozens, maybe hundreds, of minions to take on delegated work. Joe Blow doesn't have that luxury. By the way, let's just for a moment assume that you're correct. Does this mean, then, that when a woman says she's "too tired" for sex, she's just making excuses too? Link to post Share on other sites
Author toonicegirl Posted August 19, 2006 Author Share Posted August 19, 2006 it could be an excuse... when i was tired it's not that i didnt want to have sex i just didnt want to move ...haha Link to post Share on other sites
SwayLady Posted August 19, 2006 Share Posted August 19, 2006 .... when a woman says she's "too tired" for sex, she's just making excuses too? Yes If a man says he's busy and is hardly contacting the gf at all, then yes, I'd say he was using being busy as an excuse because his interest in the gf is waning. However if he says he's busy, but still making time for the gf, then it's likely that he is very busy, he's not making excuses. My ex was always busy. He had his own business and was always rushing around and tied up with work, still found time for me though. Link to post Share on other sites
stoopid_guy Posted August 19, 2006 Share Posted August 19, 2006 When you're in love, you should also understand that just because he might call you less doesn't mean he loves you less. Maybe unusually busy? Maybe cell phone minutes are maxed? Maybe a sick family member? Or maybe he/she's just tired... Link to post Share on other sites
Author toonicegirl Posted August 19, 2006 Author Share Posted August 19, 2006 If a man says he's busy and is hardly contacting the gf at all, then yes, I'd say he was using being busy as an excuse because his interest in the gf is waning. However if he says he's busy, but still making time for the gf, then it's likely that he is very busy, he's not making excuses. My ex was always busy. He had his own business and was always rushing around and tied up with work, still found time for me though. yeah...that's what i meant... at the end of my relationship my ex called me like once in few days, didnt really respond on my text messages, etc. when i wanted to talk to him about it, he was getting mad and telling me that he was busy but i just knew that's something wrong... Link to post Share on other sites
Author toonicegirl Posted August 19, 2006 Author Share Posted August 19, 2006 When you're in love, you should also understand that just because he might call you less doesn't mean he loves you less. Maybe unusually busy? Maybe cell phone minutes are maxed? Maybe a sick family member? Or maybe he/she's just tired... i think the answer is inside every person... you feel if there's a love or not...it's different when your boyfriend is calling telling you that he was busy, how his day looked like and that he missed you...or instead he's calling you the next day, getting mad that you're asking questions etc. Link to post Share on other sites
superconductor Posted August 19, 2006 Share Posted August 19, 2006 the answer is inside every person... feel if there's love or not... What are you, 12 years old?? Jeez... Link to post Share on other sites
Author toonicegirl Posted August 19, 2006 Author Share Posted August 19, 2006 no im not 12 .... english is my second language so maybe it sounds childish sometime Link to post Share on other sites
Author toonicegirl Posted August 19, 2006 Author Share Posted August 19, 2006 right now i remember that things where going wrong but i was just denying it Link to post Share on other sites
SwayLady Posted August 19, 2006 Share Posted August 19, 2006 the answer is inside every person... feel if there's love or not... What are you, 12 years old?? Jeez... LOL, no. I'm in my 30's ta very much! We are all likely to be women disagreeing with you. Your being busy, is interpreted as being 'you aint interested anymore. And while this may be the case for some men, it won't be the case for all. Same for women, some will use 'busy' as an excuse, some are genuinely busy. When I was emailing my ex, with whom I was friends not so long back, he would tell me that he was extremely busy, I immediatley thought that this meant he was too busy for me and I'd also assumed that he'd said it because he came looking for me, his curiosity about what I'd been up to had been satisfied, so now he was looking for an easy way out. So I'd mailed him back and told him, not to feel obligated to mail me so regular, if he was busy. He made no comment on what I'd said, but continued to mail same day and time he usually did. Then I heard nothing for a month, then I got an email 'sorry, I'm not avoiding you, just been busy'. LOL! What is one supposed to think when they don't hear anything for a month? If that's not avoiding someone, then I'm unsure what is. Link to post Share on other sites
superconductor Posted August 19, 2006 Share Posted August 19, 2006 Well, in order to clear up any confusion, here's a quick reality check: A good man will be attentive to his lady;A good man will be attentive to his work;A good man will be attentive to his community; A good man will be attentive to his children (if there are any); A good man will be attentive to his health; A good man will be attentive to his home; A good man will be attentive to his learning and intelligence; A good man will be attentive to what is going on in the rest of the world; A good man will be attentive to himself.Would you not agree? If so, then would you also not agree that sometimes the relationship with the SO is not the #1 priority? If you don't agree, then do you really want a good man, or a lap dog? Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted August 19, 2006 Share Posted August 19, 2006 If so, then would you also not agree that sometimes the relationship with the SO is not the #1 priority? Perhaps, but she also shouldn't be last on the list, either, and if she is, he should understand why she would question him about it...last on the list means 'he's just not that into you' to most women. Link to post Share on other sites
SwayLady Posted August 19, 2006 Share Posted August 19, 2006 ...last on the list means 'he's just not that into you' to most women. Indeed. They just don't get it, do they. Link to post Share on other sites
Author toonicegirl Posted August 20, 2006 Author Share Posted August 20, 2006 Indeed. They just don't get it, do they. no, they dont get it Link to post Share on other sites
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