Guest Posted August 18, 2006 Posted August 18, 2006 Hi everyone! This is my first time on the site and I'm not entirely sure how to start this so I'll just jump right in. Theres this girl at school that I was close friends with. She used to like me a while back but thats all over with and we were cool with it. But then I started to like her but I didnt want to screw up anything so I kept my mouth shut, thinking that I'll be over her in no time at all. Well, as the days turned to weeks, and the weeks to months, I started to think that maybe I should say something. But before I could she mysteriously started to avoid me. So I figured she already knew, and if not I was going to tell her anyways so I went ahead and told her, although it was kinda cut short and we didnt really get to talk much about it, and I never really got to explain to her that I wasnt looking for a boyfriend girlfriend thing, I was fine with just being friends. Well, 2 months (or so) later and we've talked only barely, I get the feeling shes still really uncomfortable with me, and I'm not sure what I can do, if anything. Should I wait until school starts again and try to pick up where we left off? Or should I just wait it out and see what happens? I dont want to just forget about her, she's a really awesome person and I dont want to lose her as a friend. Thanks everyone for listening.
whichwayisup Posted August 19, 2006 Posted August 19, 2006 How much do you like her? I mean, do you want to be her boyfriend? If yes, then I say open your heart up and tell her. Things can't get much worse than they already are...You and her are not as close because she's distanced herself from you. She obviously didn't know you still had feelings for her, maybe she had them for you too, but decided not to say anything either, then she backed off... Communicate! Don't worry so much, I mean if you two are good enough friends, then you should be able to be open and honest about what you feel and want. The other thing is, can you handle "just" a casual friendship with her? How do you think you'd feel if you saw her with another guy? WOuld you get jealous? Because staying friends with someone who you "like" is really difficult.
Guest Posted August 19, 2006 Posted August 19, 2006 Not only can I handle being just her friend, thats what I prefure. I don't want to be her boyfriend or anything, and I also don't I like her anymore. I'm just wondering do I go about salvaging the friendship. I already "opened up and told her" and now I'm dealing with the fallout.
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