MichaelIsTaken90 Posted August 18, 2006 Posted August 18, 2006 Ok I was at the mall with my gf yesterday and she told me how she was having problems with her family and everything. She told me that she couldn't handle having a bf right now and that it was over. I started crying there along with her. Then in the store she asked me if I was her best friend. And asked me if we are going to do all the regular things together and still continue doing the stuff we do when were bf and gf, and I told her yeah ofcoarse and I will always still be there for her. But then later on in the subway when we were going home she said that were still bf and gf and its not over she justs wants her space. She told me when she means space she means like stop calling her house alot. She told me to limit my calls to 1 per day and stop being on her case about other boys when its not true. I asked her is there more she wants me to stop doing and she said she would tell me the rest later. I just don't know what to do. I'm so confused. I love her sooo much and she does too. I been with her for more than 10 months. It just hurt me soo mcuh yesterday that she said it was over. Even though she said its not over later on and said she just wants space. It also hurt me because she told me she wants space. I know if I respect her and love her I would understand how she feels, but its just so hard to accept that fact that things change and she wants her space. Please guys don't tell me to move on I love her alot. She has been there for me since day one. Please can anyone give me any advice on how to cope with this
norajane Posted August 18, 2006 Posted August 18, 2006 I understand that you're hurt, but it sounds like she's going through some stuff that she needs to work out for herself. She told me when she means space she means like stop calling her house alot. She told me to limit my calls to 1 per day and stop being on her case about other boys when its not true As for advice, SHE is giving you all the advice you need. LISTEN to her and do what she's asking...she's really not asking for much at all. When she says she needs space and tells you to call her only once a day and to get off her back about guys she's not seeing - DO THAT. That will make a difference. There's no need to be glued to her side. And I honestly can't see why you'd need to call her more than once a day anyway, or even why you'd need to call her that often...unless you're a needy, clingy, insecure guy. That will push most people away.
Author MichaelIsTaken90 Posted August 19, 2006 Author Posted August 19, 2006 Its just I feel as though all my hopes and dreams with her went down the drain and the relationship doesn't feel the same no more ever since she asked for her space.
Mr. Mackey Posted August 19, 2006 Posted August 19, 2006 Relationships arn't easy, mmkay. I understand what it's like to be told "It's over", it's like someone jabbing a knife into your chest, and then that second after the words are said seems to last forever as your in shock. Only difference is after the words "It's over" get said, I get the hell out of there, mmkay. If the girl is important, I make sure to clarify she mean's "we're over", and if she says "Yeah", then I say "It was nice knowing you, mmkay", and move on. However, it seems that you love this girl, and are willing to go through her home struggles in order to hang on to her. Which, is noble, mmkay. Most girls that have home trouble like this usually push their boyfriends away because it brings up a lot of inner conflict within themselves, and it is very hard to think of a thing like love in such a depressing stage of life. My advice? Listen to her, mmkay. If you want to go through hell just to hold onto this one girl, do what she asks, mmkay. If she says 1 call a day, then it's one call a day. Your going to have to do a lot of "Will bending" in order to satisfy her without her jumping ship like she almost did already. Good luck, mmkay.
Author MichaelIsTaken90 Posted August 19, 2006 Author Posted August 19, 2006 Its just so hard to accept the fact that things will be different from now on you know what I mean?
Mr. Mackey Posted August 19, 2006 Posted August 19, 2006 Its just so hard to accept the fact that things will be different from now on you know what I mean? It's not fair, and it sucks ass, Yes. But hard to accept? No. It happened, things are different, end of story. I've learned that there is so much stuff in life we can't do jack **** about, that you just gotta "Go with the Flow" mmkay. Sure, it sucks, but you have no other choice then (A) Deal with it, or (B) Dump the girl and start fresh. I would go with (A), because each girl is special and you don't want to have to dump one unless you feel they have nothing left to offer.
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