Aloros Posted August 18, 2006 Posted August 18, 2006 I've been dating my boyfriend for a little over a month. He's been just amazing to me . I'm moving this Saturday, and he's offered to help me - an offer which I accepted. However, my parents have now said they will help me out as well (which is very kind of them, I love my parents). I thought if I could pull some of my friends into giving me a hand, things might not be so awkward, but all of my friends who have offered their help are in the city I am moving to. I feel like it's a little soon to be meeting the parents. I want to give him an easy out in case this should make him uncomfortable, but at the same time, I don't want him to feel like I'm outright rejecting his help. It would be awfully nice to have his help since he's stronger than I am and I have some heavy things to move. I can manage, but it will be difficult for me. Or am I just freaking out for nothing?
rina_r Posted August 18, 2006 Posted August 18, 2006 I think you are. It happened so that I introduced my b/f 2 weeks after we started dating. We took a trip to some event that took place in the same town where my mom lives. So of course she invited us for dinner. It was all great.
agnf666 Posted August 18, 2006 Posted August 18, 2006 Honestly, I would let him know that your parents are going to help as well. If he felt uncomfortable meeting them already then you would completely understand. Just be straight up with him.
starlet Posted August 18, 2006 Posted August 18, 2006 Oh, that has to be awkward. I am supernervous about meeting my boyfriends parents and we've been dating, like, nine months! I think everybody wants their significant others parents to like them, so they get nervous. I agree - give him a heads up that your parents will be there, and understand if it freaks him out a bit. Maybe offer to let him help unpack or move boxes around after your parents are gone, if that would work?
Author Aloros Posted August 18, 2006 Author Posted August 18, 2006 Thanks for everyone's advice! I talked to him and let him know my parents were coming. He said that he's ok with it and he'd probably meet them eventually anyways. It still feels awkward to me, and I'm not sure why. He's an awesome guy and my parents are pretty easy-going. I guess it just feels too early in the relationship for him to meet my parents. But yea, thanks again!
agnf666 Posted August 18, 2006 Posted August 18, 2006 It is going to feel awkward at first because you want him to make a good impression and you want your parents not to embarass you and all that happy fun stuff. I think it will be fine. Just go with the flow of things. You should have no problems.
JamesM Posted August 18, 2006 Posted August 18, 2006 Man! I remember that first time! Whew! My MIL said to me, "So, are we as bad as you thought?" She still is a wonderful woman. She and I have a bit in common...boxers (dogs), fish aquariums, gardening, and her daughter....crazy how nervous I was prior. The FIL...different story. We DO get along, but it has never been so relaxed. But that is a long story in of itself. I say let him meet the parents. If it flops this early, you have time to decide what to do. Truth is, parents are manily concerned about their child, but they also believe that their child kinda knows what she is doing...and if she is happy, they are happy.
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