Darkwall Posted August 18, 2006 Posted August 18, 2006 I have a very strong sexual appetite. Having said that, I don't think it's fair to say that one should be "horny" during the course of her period. Just to share my experiences... There have been times during my P that I was fine, no moody feeling or even discomfort. So, I was totally in the mood. There have also been other occasions during my P that I became very emotional, meloncholy or even moody. And, I experienced a great deal of discomfort in my stomach. A really uncomfortable feeling whereby there is a lot of pressure in the vaginal area. My last P I was fine but just felt like being covered in a blanket and relaxing. So you see, it varies from woman to woman as well as from period to period.
norajane Posted August 18, 2006 Posted August 18, 2006 Besides what is wrong with abstinence? Maybe that doesn't work for you but don't try to force your beliefs on me. Abstinence is an option and it's not a wrong road to travel either. I was taught abstinence in family life education back in high school. Nowadays I guess that's not taught anymore. There's nothing wrong with abstinence, but it's generally something people choose for a period of time - such as until they get married or until they get to know someone better or until they find a form of birth control that works for them. As you don't want to get married, do you plan on continuing abstinence forever? Does your girlfriend know this?
stoopid_guy Posted August 18, 2006 Posted August 18, 2006 So you see, it varies from woman to woman as well as from period to period. Just like the rest of the time...
Author john1776 Posted August 18, 2006 Author Posted August 18, 2006 Not that you need more to feel insecure about, but couldn't she just as easily spend the night at someone else's place, or at a motel with another guy? I'm not saying she's cheating, but it's not impossible just because she lives at home and doesn't have a car. I didn't say it was impossible. I'm talking about the likelihood of it. You must have misread my post. Besides she calls me every night on average or I see her online every night. Whenever she's online I know that she's almost always on her computer because I almost always see her on webcam. I call tell by the background in the webcam that she's on her own computer.
Author john1776 Posted August 18, 2006 Author Posted August 18, 2006 There's nothing wrong with abstinence, but it's generally something people choose for a period of time - such as until they get married or until they get to know someone better or until they find a form of birth control that works for them. As you don't want to get married, do you plan on continuing abstinence forever? Does your girlfriend know this? There you go again putting words in my mouth and reading into my posts something that is not there. I never said I didn't want to get married. I said I don't want to get married anytime soon. That's a big difference. This is not to say that I never will get married. If my girlfriend is really interested in knowing how long I want to continue abstaining from intercourse then she would ask. She would bring up the topic. So until she brings it up I see no reason to talk about it either. I haven't done anything wrong except being responsible not to get her pregnant. Only an immature boy would have no concerns about that. If she wants to make a dealbreaker out of this then I will have the answer to my question "does she love me the person or does she love the act of sex more than she loves me?" I will then know that this whole relationship was based on her being after only one thing the whole time. I think I have gotten sufficient opinions about what might be going on. More comments are welcome but in the meantime I will weigh everything that has been said and draw my own conclusions. I will also wait and let events play out to see if she does regain her sexual desire for me. Until then it's all speculation.
Author john1776 Posted August 19, 2006 Author Posted August 19, 2006 Usually women are most horny the day after the period is over. So I've come to a decision. If and when she gets horny again I'm going to tell her that I'm not in the mood. It's my body and my decision and I have a right to request that she keep her hands off of my genitals. She has just as much of a right to request that I keep my hands off of her as well.
stoopid_guy Posted August 19, 2006 Posted August 19, 2006 Usually women are most horny the day after the period is over. So I've come to a decision. If and when she gets horny again I'm going to tell her that I'm not in the mood. It's my body and my decision and I have a right to request that she keep her hands off of my genitals. She has just as much of a right to request that I keep my hands off of her as well. Sorry dude, but... :lmao: :lmao:
HokeyReligions Posted August 19, 2006 Posted August 19, 2006 Are you keeping score in this game? How do you know who wins or when the game is over? When she gets tired of the games and dumps you? If you want to base your relationships on games then put together the rules and give them to your prospective girl friends. At least be that honest with them.
Author john1776 Posted August 19, 2006 Author Posted August 19, 2006 Are you keeping score in this game? How do you know who wins or when the game is over? When she gets tired of the games and dumps you? If you want to base your relationships on games then put together the rules and give them to your prospective girl friends. At least be that honest with them. Unfortunately there is no winning in the dating game. Sad to say there are only degrees of losing. It's like those obselete atari games. You never could win them. You just kept playing and playing and playing until you die!
HokeyReligions Posted August 19, 2006 Posted August 19, 2006 Please get some help. I used to win at Atari and I 'won' in dating too because I consider a 20+ year marriage and still going a definite 'win'. So does my husband. But your statement certainly explains a lot. I feel really sorry for you.
Author john1776 Posted August 19, 2006 Author Posted August 19, 2006 Please get some help. I used to win at Atari and I 'won' in dating too because I consider a 20+ year marriage and still going a definite 'win'. So does my husband. But your statement certainly explains a lot. I feel really sorry for you. I don't recall asking you to feel sorry for me. I don't need you to. 20+ year marriage means nothing. You haven't died yet. You two could still get divorced between now and the time you die. It's not over until the fat man says so!! My parents got separated after 23-24 years of marriage. Besides I was not talking about marriage. I was talking about dating. Marriage is a whole different ball game from dating. Games don't apply to married people. I'm talking about two people in long term relationships outside of marriage.
whichwayisup Posted August 19, 2006 Posted August 19, 2006 Ok I went to see my girlfriend today. She was not in the mood for any sexual activity because it's that time of the month for her period. I'd like to know if it is normal for a woman to not be in the mood for sex during her period? Or should I just come to the conclusion that she's not into me anymore? Is it true that if a woman is into her man then she'll be horny 24 hours a day 7 days a week? Don't compare your girlfriends cycle and sex drive from anybody here. We're all different! I actually am NOT turned on at all at the end of my period. When my period is light and almost done, I feel more dry than usual and definately NOT horny. This has nothing to do with my husband, it's just how my hormones are. Don't assume your girlfriend isn't into you because sex isn't happening. Life sometimes gets in the way! Daily stresses, work, school, whatever. Not feeling well, general fatigue, etc...Sometimes there's no reason for not wanting sex! It happens, okay, but it's not about you and her rejecting or punishing you. She is your girlfriend still? Then things are OK. Now, I haven't read the full thread yet so I have no clue how off topic things went..,
leopardprint Posted August 19, 2006 Posted August 19, 2006 Usually women are most horny the day after the period is over. So I've come to a decision. If and when she gets horny again I'm going to tell her that I'm not in the mood. It's my body and my decision and I have a right to request that she keep her hands off of my genitals. She has just as much of a right to request that I keep my hands off of her as well. And here you go AGAIN playing games with her. What is your problem? Did it ever occur to you that maybe she's just not in the mood like the majority of women are when they're on their period? You're always trying to GET BACK at her for nothing doing anything to you. She's honest to you and you don't give her the respect and trust she deserves. Grow up and stop being a boy; be a man.
JamesM Posted August 19, 2006 Posted August 19, 2006 John, first let me ask you not to think that I consider you a threat to society. I see you are making that comment here like you did to me on another thread. Let me get this straight....and I may be very wrong. You are practicing abstinence...which I truly do respect....but having handjobs. SO, then you get satisfaction, but she doesn't. Then you wonder why she doesn't want to "do you" while she has her period. Women and periods. PMS and moods. These are a few of my favorite things. Just kidding. But I can tell you that even if you have seen her moods now, marriage will bring them out full force. And if you think that you will be pleased 24/7, then please ask some more questions of women here about life's realities. Abstinence. Usually this refers to no sex. Period. This would include handjobs and oral...sex. However, why does she give you HJs only? Not to get too personal, but do you reciprocate? Games and Dating. Yes, there are alot of games, but truthfully, the more one gets to know someone, the more the games become fun to play. Good games are when you want your partner to win. Games and Marriage. Sorry, they continue. They just get more sophisticated. That is part of the fun and challenge of marriage. And even though I have been married 16 years, I still have much to learn about my wife. Just when I think I learned all the rules of the game and think I can win, she changes the game and I need to learn more rules.... I LOVE IT! rolleyes: But that helps me develop patience and humor. Her lack of interest may have nothing to do with her period, but during her period she will experience cramps and pains. This certainly kills the libido. As I have heard before.."It isn't always about you." This may be worse one month and easier the next. She may be more irritable one month to the next. And not all women are the same when it comes to libido levels. Some are more "horny" at different times. This is part of the learning experience of dating and marriage. Good luck...there is much to learn. I feel I have about finished First Grade.
john1775 Posted August 21, 2006 Posted August 21, 2006 Well she called me tonight and tells me that she finished her "curse of the month" yesterday. Her periods typically last 3-4 days. Now she tells me her sexual drive is at it's peak and she tried to do phone sex with me tonight but I told her I wasn't in the mood and then shortly thereafter I ended the phone conversation and hung up first. She was in a good mood tonight. I don't know when I'm going to see her again. Probably the end of this week but when I do I'm not going to initiate any sexual contact. If & when she initiates sexual contact I'll just tell her again that I'm not in the mood and come up with some excuse like a throbbing headache.
The slayer Posted August 21, 2006 Posted August 21, 2006 and what exactly do you intend to achieve by doing this? ps I assume this is still the op? why have you changed your name?
john1775 Posted August 21, 2006 Posted August 21, 2006 and what exactly do you intend to achieve by doing this? ps I assume this is still the op? why have you changed your name? It should leave her wanting more of me sexually. I'm not at liberty to discuss here why I changed my name.
Toni_no12002 Posted August 21, 2006 Posted August 21, 2006 It should leave her wanting more of me sexually. I'm not at liberty to discuss here why I changed my name. Or she might get sick of the silly game playing and leave you for someone who takes into consideration her wants and needs aswell.
john1775 Posted August 21, 2006 Posted August 21, 2006 Not if I turn down sex two or three times. It's not like I plan on turning her down forever. Just for a couple times.
Fun2BMe Posted August 21, 2006 Posted August 21, 2006 Maybe it is a religious thing? Is she jewish? I read that the women can't have sex during their period. Also, as many others said, some simply feel unsexy during their cramps, bloating and bleeding period. Try to be more sympathetic instead of retaliating by holding back sex once her period is over. It's not like you have to go through a period. Why punish her for it? You're acting like she's punishing you by intentionally holding back when it is about her body and feelings during those 3 days of the month. Why not give her something to look forward to once her uncomfortable period is over instead of acting childish by not being in the mood yourself? the difference being you doing it on purpose to hurt her whereas she does it for biological reasons. That would make me want to break up with you, so selfish and un-understanding.
Toni_no12002 Posted August 21, 2006 Posted August 21, 2006 I feel more in the mood when im on my period and my bf doesnt want to do it then.Everyones different though depends how bad you get your period,if you get cramps and so on.You get cramps because your womb lining is breaking down.Im not suprised most women dont want sex when on there periods!
littlekitty Posted August 21, 2006 Posted August 21, 2006 Well she called me tonight and tells me that she finished her "curse of the month" yesterday. Her periods typically last 3-4 days. Now she tells me her sexual drive is at it's peak and she tried to do phone sex with me tonight but I told her I wasn't in the mood and then shortly thereafter I ended the phone conversation and hung up first. She was in a good mood tonight. I don't know when I'm going to see her again. Probably the end of this week but when I do I'm not going to initiate any sexual contact. If & when she initiates sexual contact I'll just tell her again that I'm not in the mood and come up with some excuse like a throbbing headache. The words... 'cutting off your nose to spite your face' spring to mind here. How old are you John? Not 28? Please tell me your actually 15?
stoopid_guy Posted August 21, 2006 Posted August 21, 2006 The words... 'cutting off your nose to spite your face' spring to mind here. How old are you John? Not 28? Please tell me your actually 15? Well, it's not exactly his nose he's cutting off...
john1775 Posted August 21, 2006 Posted August 21, 2006 The words... 'cutting off your nose to spite your face' spring to mind here. How old are you John? Not 28? Please tell me your actually 15? Actually it's more along the lines of what caliguy would say if he was here "a balanced man establishes boundaries and enforces reprecussions when a woman crosses them." Why should I give my girlfriend the luxury of feeling comfortable when I don't feel comfortable? I want her to have the same doubts that I have about her. I want her to wonder "is he just not into me anymore" like I'm wondering about her. I'm preparing for the worst case scenario. If she's really into me then she'll be persistant about wanting sexual contact with me. If not then she'll just give up initiating after 1 or 2 times.
a4a Posted August 21, 2006 Posted August 21, 2006 Actually it's more along the lines of what caliguy would say if he was here "a balanced man establishes boundaries and enforces reprecussions when a woman crosses them." Why should I give my girlfriend the luxury of feeling comfortable when I don't feel comfortable? I want her to have the same doubts that I have about her. I want her to wonder "is he just not into me anymore" like I'm wondering about her. I'm preparing for the worst case scenario. If she's really into me then she'll be persistant about wanting sexual contact with me. If not then she'll just give up initiating after 1 or 2 times. I am lighting candles and sacraficing chickens in hopes that this woman comes to her senses and dumps you ASAP. Dude you are so screwed up it is not funny. You are just plain mean to this woman..... selfish, manipulative, and just mean. Come on now, what you are really hoping for is a big dramatic break up. You are indeed settting up the scene for one. For her sake hurry up and dump her. You are acting like a baby, a big crying selfish baby. Do you really think she owes you anything? Do you really think you can trick her into making you feel less insecure?
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