handsome Posted August 18, 2006 Posted August 18, 2006 I have an issue can you please help I was dating this girl for almost a year, we both met through a friend of mine, she had a boyfriend over in india for three years and they broke up and he got married to some other girl in india. she is in U.S.A in texas, right after she broke up with her boyfriend like after couple of months we met each other through a friend and i proposed her, first she said, she does not want any relationship and then slowly we started meeting with other and one day i proposed her and said i love you , first she did not react but after a month she started accepting me and we started going out more often and i bought lots of gift and flowers for her and she bought gifts for me too, and on valentine day she gave a teddy bear ( be mine) and a greeting card and we started going out more and more and all of my friends and her friends now know that we are boyfriend and girlfriend but recently she went to india in june for couple of months and she came back in Aug i have talk to her almost every day on the phone while she was in india., after coming back she completely changed she never came to see me for 7 days and all of a sudden she now says that; You know something i dont think i have that kind of feelings for you anymore, that message left me completely surprised me, she broke my heart, i called her talked to her and she said that she had those feelings for a while and now they are not anymore now; Im completely shocked how can someone have feeling for someone and after a while tell that person that she does not have any feelings for that person. whenever we made love she always used to kiss me, hug me tight used to enjoy and now she is not even ready to see me and says that she will make me cry and feel guilty although i convinced her to see me and we will talk over, she is ready to see me only one time and she says after that if she does not feel the feelings she had she asked me to let her go out of my life; I really don't understand where did i go wrong, i love her truly and from the bottom of my heart please help me, make me understand where did i go wrong, thanking you and hoping to hear some response to save this relationship please help me understand this I used to give her lots of flowers every now and then and now she says that my love is not love it is overwelming to her. who in world can say that love is overwelming or may be the problem is that i love her too much. i dont know what to do I haven't talked to her since 3 days and today she text me through her sister that she wants to see me and i was busy and couln't see her and after that she never wrote back....what should i do please help i dont want to loose her, i love her very much and wanted to spend rest of life with her...please give some suggestions to save this relationship or is it worthwhile to do it i dont know but i feel like she the one for me......
Guest Posted August 18, 2006 Posted August 18, 2006 so have u asked her what happened in india/?or if anything hapend there? well i reckon you should try and talk it over and make an effort to save it...but u have to recognise the point where its truly over..like if her response doesn't change then you must give up after a while...because if you've tried and she still doesn't respond..then whats the point..even if you get her back, what is the point of being with her if u had to persuade her into it?so just try a bit...but dont exactly beg on your knees n scream take me bak take me bak or anyfing..
dancehead Posted August 18, 2006 Posted August 18, 2006 Hello. Your story touched me and I feel sorry for your pain. It does make me wonder what happened in India, did she meet someone? It doesn't sound as though she knows what she wants in her lovelife. Sometimes its hard to know if you love someone or not. It sounds to me that from the start you have always been the one chasing her and trying to win her even though she she said she did not want a relationship. Maybe you can dig deeper and find out what really happened in India when you see her. But I would not get your hopes up because I have had similar done to me and when a woman has doubts and wants to meet for the last time it is not normally good news. I think if I were to meet a girl who did not want a relationship in future I would ask myself can i be content with this? How strong are my feelings? If they are too strong its best not to persue her. If its bad news then at least you can walk away knowing that you gave it your all and you tried. Good luck with the meeting and I hope you get the answers you need.
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