my relationship

[binxy]

I'm not quite sure how this works, who will advise me? anyway here's my problem: my fiance and i are having trouble, we experienced something togther that he can't seem to deal with, i think he's in the denial state, he cant accept what has happened and move on. he loves me i know, he tells me, but he says when he's with me he wants to stay and when he's not he doesnt want us to work. the ting is i'm the only person he can speak to about whats happeneing to him. the dilema seems to be for him " how can i get over hating the person i love". he keeps asking 'why', he's mourning for us, for himself, for his emotional state thats new to him: he's used to keeping his feelings inside and has never been so confused in his life. i want to help him but its soo hard. i've agreed to put our relationship on hold so we can deal with the issues so that he wont have to deal with sorting and maintaining a relationship. it hurts so much though, i don't know what to do, i can't reach him, he's not a 'feeler' he's a thinker and he internalizes things. how can he forgive me and himself, how can he stop blaming himself and move past pointing fingers to just accepting what has happened