Mollyanna Posted August 17, 2006 Posted August 17, 2006 What does it say about a man who's two best friends are girls? One is his ex-girlfriend that he broke up with 3 years ago. (They were together for 12 years). The other is a girl he was interested in a few years ago but she did not feel the same way about him. Is there really any room for me in his life when he already has two other women who he talks to almost every single day? I mean, except for sex, why does he even NEED me around???
AriaIncognito Posted August 18, 2006 Posted August 18, 2006 Is this the ex, or a new guy that you met? Just curious :-) I dont see anything wrong with this, though, as long as you're secure in yourself. These are both women that don't want him, and he more than likely doesn't want them, because it would be too painful to keep either around that long if he did. Some men get along better with women than men. Some men feel they can be more open with a woman, I think. Anyway...hehe Jennifer
Author Mollyanna Posted August 18, 2006 Author Posted August 18, 2006 The ex DOES want him back. He even knows that. Yes, I am talking about D. (i still don't want to call him the ex) I just wonder if he is emotionally attached to both of these women, maybe that is why he can't commit to me. He doesn't have room for me. They take all his energy. Why would you title your ex as your best friend - the only person you would trust your life with? That is what he told me. I don't believe he will ever get back with her, but wonder WHY he has to have that woman in his life every single day and also wonder what kind of advice she has given him about me. considering she still wants him and all....
AriaIncognito Posted August 18, 2006 Posted August 18, 2006 It could very well be a detriment to the relationship, if she wants him, and he's asking her for advice. It's a tough situation. You can't exactly deliver an ultimatum because that makes you look like the bad guy. Wanting him to "give up" his best friend for you or whatever. My once best friend (my ex - was with him 4 years) basically was told to make that decision by his now wife. I'm not really sure what the outcome is, in her mind. I think maybe she knows we still talk, but i'm not sure. I know she didn't me around for a second. He invited me to their wedding. I didn't want to go, but it was a huge deal to him, and i was his friend, so I went. I'm not sure where I'm going with this, I guess my point is, he and i are still friends, despite the fact his wife basically forbade it lol. So i'm not sure that having him drop her would work. I Pmed you last night, did you get it? ;-) Anyway, yeah, your situation here is tricky, if you are to remain in his life, you'll need to decide how you feel about "Competing" with another woman, so to speak, and her potential sabotage of the relationship. Let's face it, if we want a man, do we try to give him good advice that will keep him from getting with us? hate to say i've not seen that occur much, most people aren't so selfless... Jennifer
Author Mollyanna Posted August 18, 2006 Author Posted August 18, 2006 i have never felt intimidated by her presence until now. My friend said this ex was just dumped by her boyfriend so now she is at D's house almost every day. In there cleaning his house, asking if he wishes they had never broken up. etc.. etc... He has told me enough about their relationship that I know he would be CRAZY to go back with her. And he is not crazy. I am just trying to sort out what it is that's holding him back from being with me. Today when I talked to him, it was as powerful as the first night we met. I felt it. Jennifer: let me check my PMs. lol I remember checking them this morning at like 5:30 am but maybe I forgot to respond
Guest Posted August 19, 2006 Posted August 19, 2006 If he was the one to break up with them and if one of them still wants him back then is it not possible that he is remaining in touch with them to build his own self-esteem, to make him feel wanted and attractive? It is'nt a nice accusation but if someone wanted me back that badly and I didnt' feel the same way the last thing I'd do is try to be best friends with them. I wouldn't want to lead them on and waste their time.
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