Maria33 Posted August 17, 2006 Posted August 17, 2006 I am 40ish and have not dated for years. The problem is how do you let someone know you are interested without going overboard? I met this man and we talk but we have not had a date yet. Is there anyway to prompt him to ask me out without me actually asking him out? He is bashful. But, he likes me too. We get along and are both attracted to one another. I can't just let him e-mail me then e-mail him back. If he doesn't e-mail back soon I'll send another one. I'm afraid I look desperate and pushy. I am impatient and I do really want to go out with him and see what happens. Should I just calm down and let it go slow? We met about 2 weeks ago. Or can I prompt him without looking like a loser? Please give me your ideas. I really need them!
superconductor Posted August 17, 2006 Posted August 17, 2006 Asking a man out is not only perfectly normal, it's attractive. Go for it. You have absolutely nothing to lose and everything to gain.
Author Maria33 Posted August 18, 2006 Author Posted August 18, 2006 I just don't know if I can do it. I really want him to ask me out. Isn't there a way I can suggest going out together without actually asking him out? Help!
FooD2000 Posted August 18, 2006 Posted August 18, 2006 i'm sure he got your e-mail, no need to show him your a crazy girl yet... but as far as asking him: Find some common ground as far as activities go. Anything from baseball game, food etc... "Do you like sushi?" "yes" - "oh, well there's a great sushi place down in xxxx place, we should go sometime" "okay, when's your next day off" vola!
Author Maria33 Posted August 18, 2006 Author Posted August 18, 2006 Okay, I tried. Apparently he didn't like me as much as I thought. He likes to talk to me on the internet so I was talking to him. We were talking and then I said that it would be nice to sit and talk to him, and that there was a good movie on this weekend. He didn't even answer me he just signed off. That was it. Of course I was devestated. Either he really didn't like me or I was being pushy and he didn't like that. I guess I blew it. I really had thought that we would get along well.
Returning Posted August 18, 2006 Posted August 18, 2006 Maybe Maria33, or he may be married, or he may be agrophobic, or he may be extremely insecure, there are a million and one reasons why he is behaving this way. One thing is for sure, it is not you or anything you have done. If you feel ready for exploring the dating game again try a site called plentyoffish.com, you will be in complete control of your profile and who you are in contact with, there are forums to chat in and an instant messaging service and you don't have to pay a penny. Let this guy sort his head out meanwhile, there are plenty more fish in the sea, there is a good thread on these boards that gives an excellent guide to on line dating, I will dig it up for you. Take care and don't take this mans actions to heart, it didn't pan out, so what? wasn't your fault.
Returning Posted August 18, 2006 Posted August 18, 2006 heres that thread http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t81698/ Its a bit long but it's sound advice
Returning Posted August 18, 2006 Posted August 18, 2006 heres that thread http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t81698/ Its a bit long but it's sound advice
me too Posted August 19, 2006 Posted August 19, 2006 I think I am in a similiar situation with a 40ish man. I am around 30ish myself and found it much much much easier to date a 20ish or early 30ish men because they are more willing to start a relationship. I am starting to wonder whether all the 40ish men are like this?
Author Maria33 Posted August 19, 2006 Author Posted August 19, 2006 I do know he's not married but he is bashful and new to dating also. He quit talking to me since Thursday night when I let him know I wanted to see him. Today we are talking again. How can I slow down and stop pushing things? How do you do that with someone who you like and want to get to know? I am not really pushy but I am very impatient. Any ideas?
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