Guest Posted August 17, 2006 Posted August 17, 2006 After the break up, me and my ex couldn't really let go of each other...we kept in contact and decided we would still be friends. It became really hard for me because she was getting close with a friend of hers...and only a couple of months had passed since we split. It was heartbreaking when I realized that they had became more than friends at that point, I was ready to leave and not look back but she said she couldn't be without me, we kiss. few weeks pass by and we have the so called "sex with the ex" which was the best I ever had. I decide I can handle her being with somebody else because at this point she is still in love with me and she doesn't really loves him. A month or two passes by and to my surprise she tells me she is now oficially his girl. A lot has changed at this point, her feelings for her grow stronger and I'm feeling more and more distant...I decide It's time for me to move on and start going out meeting new people, it all goes well, until I find out she's feeling jelous of the girls I go out with and gets very resentful, she still cares about me and that feels really nice. We would still talk, write each other messages and meet from time to time, it was nice being her friend again. Then It all changed, suddently she didn't want to spend so much time with me anymore and she became really short with me...suddently my actions would not have an effect on her. the reason? She was starting to love him...head over heels, the whole thing. I wasn't being missed anymore, he was the center of her world and he could make her happy with so minimal effort. I can't stop thinking about her, I still miss hanging out with her but what's the point on holding on to something that doesn't need you anymore? what's the point on holding on to something that is ok with you not being there for her anymore. I wan't to break the friendship, stop seeing her, avoid all contact, maybe then I could finally forget and move on just as she has forgotten all about me and move on. I was ok with us not being together anymore, just as long as I was her one true love in her heart, someone she could always keep in her memories, but I'm afraid HE is replacing me in every aspect of her life...becoming so important my memories no longer have a place in her heart.
lindya Posted August 17, 2006 Posted August 17, 2006 I was ok with us not being together anymore, just as long as I was her one true love in her heart, someone she could always keep in her memories, but I'm afraid HE is replacing me in every aspect of her life...becoming so important my memories no longer have a place in her heart. Had it been true love between the two of you, wouldn't you both have put everything into keeping the relationship going? It's only right that she's giving her heart to the guy she's with now. Eventually you'll also meet someone, and hopefully that'll help you rid yourself of this need for an ex-girlfriend to view you as the great love of her life.
csb_25 Posted August 17, 2006 Posted August 17, 2006 I feel for you, 'cause I understand, I'm going through almost the exact same thing. And an analogy someone reminded me of recently, while not curing anything, is helping me mentaly and emotionaly, if only in the tiniest bit. She may always be the love of your life, as is the case with my love, but you may just have to let her fly free. If she is ment to fly free without you, she will. And if she is ment to come back to you, in time she will. As for being replaced, yeah, it hurts, it really does. I know the woman I love will always have a place in my heart, and will always be the one true love of my life, and I think that, while she used to think that way about me, she is starting to think that I can be replaced, truly replaced in her heart as her one true love. It hurts, it really does, but it is something that we eventually have to except, we must except their feelings in the matter, and try to move on even though we still hold them in our hearts as our one true love. I know, 'cause I'm going through the same thing now after being with her for 8 years, and it hurts, and I honestly don't know if I will be able to do it, that I won't just be a wreck for the rest of my life, but I've got to be willing to try, to accept that I can try, so I can attempt to live my own life and be happy, and hopefully, if I never have the miracle of having her back, I can, when I'm an old man sitting on a porch somewhere, look back on my love for her with fondness, and not pain and hurt. Well, that's my tarnished two cents anyways.
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