wizedup Posted August 17, 2006 Posted August 17, 2006 My stbx and I have been separated over 2 mos. We were married 15 years (together 23; I met him when I was 16). We have 2 children. I have not spoken to his family during this time. We used to have an ok relationship but that has deteriorated over the years (his sis is a pothead and pill popper; his mother's in denial about her kids drug probs and I guess I just got sick of it all and detached myself from them). He has called my mom twice and had lunch with her husband. While I didn't mind this at the time because he said "he couldn't open up to his mom and needed someone to talk to", when he started trashing me to my family, then my mom stopped all contact (thankfully). I do not want to reconcile. His drug use, controlling/manipulative ways and verbal/emotional abuse has left me loveless towards him. I have told him that I'm not in love with him. He tells me "we will not get a divorce"; "I will never let you go", etc. We are both in counseling, separately. Living as his wife is a death sentence to me and I can never go back. Should I call his mother and let her know my stance on all this? Now that my mother has stopped contact, his mother is now who he calls. I'm thinking maybe if she knows how I feel (I have no idea what he's told her) then maybe she can talk to him and he'll leave me alone about a reconcilation. Advice?
Ladyjane14 Posted August 17, 2006 Posted August 17, 2006 I wouldn't. Engaging his family is inviting unwanted contact. If you're sure you want a divorce... you're painting a big bullseye on your forehead by giving him something to complain about.
December2004 Posted August 18, 2006 Posted August 18, 2006 When we first started having problems, his mother was very supportive. Once he moved out, I stopped contact.
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