signofthegoat Posted August 16, 2006 Posted August 16, 2006 I realize that infatuation developing after a mere meeting with someone is natural and normal, but I for the most part am uncomfortable with the symptoms and would rather get the "green light" or not, as far as pursuing goes. My situation at the moment is unquestionably lust at first sight, and what I neglected to do was offer to exchange numbers with him. I don't know if after meeting a girl and shooting pool with her and then neglecting to ask for HER digits automatically means he's "just not into her." Or does it? I mean, the friend he was with at the pool hall is friends with MY best friend, so I figured there might be a possibility we'd see each other again eventually. Or maybe never again, though, which is why I really just want to have a means of contact with this guy. I want to spend more time with him to see if my infatuation is justified or even on to something. Infatuation can blind a girl and lead her to believe a guy is more interested than he actually may be, but I still thought the hints I was given might be in my favor after all. He was a little hard to read since he was tall, dark and mysterious and said very little that night. But I read his body language instead and analyzed his actions and I could tell he enjoyed my company when he wanting to keep playing even after he'd technically won that "round" of pool. So, the thing is, is that I do have the number of his friend, but I don't want to have his friend feel like I'm "using" him only to get to the guy I like. What I sort of want to do is ask his friend to forward my digits to him, that way placing the ball in his court. I would really like it to be in his hands. Seeing as he doesn't have a way to contact me, I don't feel like it is in his hands... I feel like it's in mine since I want to see him so much again. I would just like some suggestions on what to do and if one of them is to forget about him, then I ask how come?
CIE Posted August 17, 2006 Posted August 17, 2006 I am somewhat in a similar situation. Met One of my friend's gf best friends the other day. We really talked alot and I really want to see her again. I didnt ask for her number, and in retrospect maybe i should have. I didnt ask because i though it might be too forward considering we had just met like 3 hours earlyer.
Author signofthegoat Posted August 17, 2006 Author Posted August 17, 2006 Yeah, well... I just sent the guy I like's friend a text message telling him I forgot to get the number and if I could have it. I'm just making the whole thing harder than it needs to be; I always do. What you could do is get in touch with that girlfriend through your friend and request the chick's number that way.
CIE Posted August 17, 2006 Posted August 17, 2006 I probably could, what's your girl side take on this? What if your bf's best friend asked you to give him your best friend's number because he's interested in her? What would you think? What would she think? As for when it comes to asking a guy for his friend's number, I doubt he will feel used. And just because he didnt ask for your number doesnt mean he is not interested, just take me for example. I'm very interested in her, I wouldnt say I'm in love or in lust, but I would definatly love the chance to go out and just talk with her one on one and get to know her a little more. In the end you are right, you are the interested party, so the ball is in your court by default. He might be as well, but you can only be sure about yourself. I'm in the same boat, but i dont want my friend's gf to think im weird or even worst, have the girl im interested in think that, hence why I asked you what you'd think ;p
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