calidude Posted August 16, 2006 Posted August 16, 2006 i am in an relationship that has been for over 8 years now, and my gf lives with me. i have a guy friend, who has been my friend for many years 20 or so (all my friends are men as i am) who has been living with his gf for 15 yrs now. My relationship with my gf is so-so, we have our ups and downs like anyone else. Our sex life is so-so for the fact that our work schedule is hectic, and there is much stress. Anyhow, my friend`s gf is a strange character. Over the years he has made comments about how she doesnt like sex, and she doesn`t mind if he flirts with other women. He also brags about how he so "well hung" and this and that... About 5 years back, he was at my house to visit. Everything seemed ok. Then, a year or so later, my gf tells me he flirted with her, when he visited, and she didnt want to tell me because i may go kick his ass or something. So, in the back of my head i am thinking about how his women does not like sex, aswell as all the other stuff he said so i think to my self that maybe its true he did flirt. I never confronted him though. A few years goes buy, and one evening when he knew i was not going to be home he calls my gf on the phone. When i got home she mentioned he called and they talked for a while about her problems at her work and issues she was having. At this point i am thinking uuh ohh...he`s after my gf! So i as her what they talked about and she gets all mad and won`t tell me! She just said they talked about her work. See, to me this is strange because he knew i was not going tobe home, and he used some info i gave him about her work issues to et her to open up. I call him, and ask him..whats going!? My gf said you called and wanted me to call....he started acting extremely guilty, and he was acting waaay unusually nice. He started offering me some tools that i needed out of nowhere. So the next day he calls. He makes the comment that i seemd bent out of shape. I explain..."how would you like it if i waited till you were gone then called your women?" He starts trying to justify everything by saying my gf needs another shoulder to cry on it is a psychology thing. He also goes on about how my gf whom he has only met 3 times in person is equally his friend, and blah blah blah! At this point i am sick to my stomach. I am getting really close to laying out the ole " I going to have to kick your ass thing" But i told him t wasnt about jeolousy like he suggested, but it is about respect! He has no clue i knew about him flirting before. I am afraid i may have lost a friend over this deal...but what the hell man! As i told him,,,he called her, she didn`t call him! People,,,do i have every right to be mad at him? Peace!
Bryanp Posted August 16, 2006 Posted August 16, 2006 Your friend has no respect for you and certainly no class. I would be pissed also. I think you should tell his girlfriend how he has been trying to hit on your girlfriend. Your friend has no honor. Good riddance to him.
Guest Posted August 17, 2006 Posted August 17, 2006 Your friend has no respect for you and certainly no class. I would be pissed also. I think you should tell his girlfriend how he has been trying to hit on your girlfriend. Your friend has no honor. Good riddance to him. i feel like **** now coz i let him off too easy. I suppose he is feelng guilty, thats why he hasn`t called me since we our talk. I also forgot to add, that he told me he had a confession to make. My old lady allready told me the majority. So his confession was no secret. The thing that pissed me off on top of it was instead of saying he was sorry, and he knew he crossed the line..he just kept trying to justify everything, after his empty confession. The more and more i think of this, the more it makes my blood boil! He someday will call again, and i think i`ts better i just break all ties off...I agree 100% the s.o.b. has no class, and NO RESPECT! THAT PUNK! Peace!
Guest Posted August 17, 2006 Posted August 17, 2006 i forgot to add,, eversince that day, my gf and have fought like cats and dogs! I have no idea wat he planted in her head? But she is holdong some sort of grudge on me now!
jonesgirly Posted August 18, 2006 Posted August 18, 2006 Pack it back in your pants, guest. The bigger man in this situation would choose NOT to kick ANYONE's ass, and just erase them on their list of friends. Your GF's probably pissed because she lost an 'ego-booster', which says a LOT about her frame of mind. My old lady Don't call her that. Please. Be respectful - and you CAN expect if from others.
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