Minkie Posted August 16, 2006 Posted August 16, 2006 My boyfriend of 1.5 yrs and I broke up almost 2 months ago. No cheating or anything terrible, his reason for breaking up with me was that he "just didn't feel like working on us RIGHT NOW." Aargh. I left that night all pissed off at him. I sent him 2 texts later that night saying I thought it was crappy that he didn't even talk to me about it and that he knows we are worth working on. The next day I was freaking out and I left a note at his apt. saying I hoped he would reconsider. I did not hear back from him. I was quiet for almost 2 weeks, then I texted him and asked if he still did not want to work on us. He called me back later on that night after a few drinks and kept saying how much he thinks about me and stuff, but did not ever answer my question. Said he would call me back but never did. A week and a half later I get a text from him saying "do not ever think i don't think about you." I did not reply. 2 nights after that he sends "I do miss you." I sent "I do miss you too" the next morning. Since then, there has been nothing. I did send a certificate of his that was about to expire to him in the mail 3 weeks ago. I just put in a note saying "here you go in case you want to use it." I didn't hear anything, but I guess I didn't really expect to from that. I have been fighting every urge I have to contact him. He has some books of my uncles and some other things of mine that I will need back. Do I contact him to get those things back? We are both in our late 20's and I am ultimately hoping for a reconciliation here. We broke up once before, almost the same circumstances. He came back about 3 months later out of the blue. I don't know what to do right now.
Violet87 Posted August 17, 2006 Posted August 17, 2006 I think the only thing you can do is give him some time/space and try to distance yourself from him a bit. I wouldn't recommend contacting him. It doesn't sound like he really wants a commitment or is confused about the relationship at the moment. Just watch back and see how he acts towards you.
Author Minkie Posted August 18, 2006 Author Posted August 18, 2006 Thank you for your opinion! I really am cool with the NC thing overall; it isn't easy, but I know it's right. I just don't know what to do about getting the stuff back from him that I need to get back. It isn't stuff that belongs to me, it belongs to family and friends of mine. One of the items I need back he has had since we broke up the first time. I periodically asked for it back, he would say "sure, we will set up a time to do that" and then I wouldn't hear back. No big deal I guess since we got back together. I just worry that if I don't get this stuff back and we don't get back together it will be lost or thrown out or something. I don't know how much time to wait. I don't want this stuff to not be returned, but I don't want to blow things either.
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