AtLongLast Posted August 16, 2006 Posted August 16, 2006 I have found that I am full of hatred and venom for my ex and mostly for my friend (a former good friend) who is dating him. Seriously. I HATE them. I get angry when I think of them and that is often. I have to work with her so that doesn't help matters and when she runs her fingers through her hair trying to be all cute or sexy or whatever it is that she is thinking, I want to grab her hair and set it on fire. Grrrr. End Rant
superconductor Posted August 16, 2006 Posted August 16, 2006 Do you think for a moment that she cares one whit about whether you hate her or not? It's entirely self-defeating. By expending all this energy to them, you're only damaging your own self-esteem. Success is the best revenge. So live your life on your terms, without another moment's thought as to what they may or may not be doing, or how they are. Easier said than done, I know, but you have to start somewhere.
Author AtLongLast Posted August 16, 2006 Author Posted August 16, 2006 of course I realize its completely self defeating. I do take pride in the fact that until now...20+ years into my life, I really have never hated anyone. Strong dislike sure, but never to this extent. My anger fuels me, and trust me I don't let them know how I feel. I was just ranting here. To her face I am sweet and funny, and I hope is she has even the slightest conscience, which I am sure she doesn't....I hope she feels like complete ****. Inside though I imagine myself punching her square in her nose. (I have never hit anyone and wouldn't hit her--its just the thought) I am just angry at the betrayal. You expect that from a "lover". Not a friend. At least I don't.
lindya Posted August 16, 2006 Posted August 16, 2006 of course I realize its completely self defeating. I do take pride in the fact that until now...20+ years into my life, I really have never hated anyone. Strong dislike sure, but never to this extent. My anger fuels me, and trust me I don't let them know how I feel. I was just ranting here. To her face I am sweet and funny, and I hope is she has even the slightest conscience, which I am sure she doesn't....I hope she feels like complete ****. Inside though I imagine myself punching her square in her nose. (I have never hit anyone and wouldn't hit her--its just the thought) I am just angry at the betrayal. You expect that from a "lover". Not a friend. At least I don't. You've been betrayed, you're feeling angry and that's perfectly normal...provided, of course, you don't act on any of those feelings and go punching her in the face. It might help to put less effort into being sweet and funny to her face. You certainly don't owe her any favours, after all. Why not just adopt a cool, professional approach with her, and keep your distance as much as possible. It's counterproductive to be super-nice to someone in the hope that it will encourage them to feel guilty. Keep focusing on cultivating an air of polite indifference towards her, and eventually that'll sink in and form part of your real feelings. People often have far more ability to control their emotions than they give themselves credit for.
Author AtLongLast Posted August 16, 2006 Author Posted August 16, 2006 thanks lindya. I agree. It does take a lot of energy just to be nice. Perhaps professional and polite is the only way to go. Grrr. This is exactly why I hate having friends. I always, always invest more into them then they do into me. In the end I am always hurt.
superconductor Posted August 16, 2006 Posted August 16, 2006 I imagine myself punching her square in her nose. Don't hit people in the face. Too many bones there, and you'll just end up hurting your hand. Choose soft tissue, such as the throat, solar plexus, kidneys or abdomen. And aim four inches beyond your intended target, that will put more energy into the strike. Always follow up, too. A single thump is meaningless without a flurry of follow-up strikes. Once you've got your opponent off-balance, continue to strike until they're either on the ground or so damaged that they can't mount a counter-attack. Never turn your back on an opponent until the fracas is well and truly over. Oh... sorry, this isn't boxing class.
fireflywy Posted August 17, 2006 Posted August 17, 2006 Don't hit people in the face. Too many bones there, and you'll just end up hurting your hand. Choose soft tissue, such as the throat, solar plexus, kidneys or abdomen. And aim four inches beyond your intended target, that will put more energy into the strike. Always follow up, too. A single thump is meaningless without a flurry of follow-up strikes. Once you've got your opponent off-balance, continue to strike until they're either on the ground or so damaged that they can't mount a counter-attack. Never turn your back on an opponent until the fracas is well and truly over. Oh... sorry, this isn't boxing class. Oh, and don't think... trust your feelings... your eyes can decieve you... let the Force guide you....
Mollyanna Posted August 17, 2006 Posted August 17, 2006 of course I realize its completely self defeating. I do take pride in the fact that until now...20+ years into my life, I really have never hated anyone. Strong dislike sure, but never to this extent. My anger fuels me, and trust me I don't let them know how I feel. I was just ranting here. To her face I am sweet and funny, and I hope is she has even the slightest conscience, which I am sure she doesn't....I hope she feels like complete ****. Inside though I imagine myself punching her square in her nose. (I have never hit anyone and wouldn't hit her--its just the thought) I am just angry at the betrayal. You expect that from a "lover". Not a friend. At least I don't. God I hate that you said that. My ex was the first person to ever get me to watch Star Wars. I watched it in the logical order, not the order it was released. and we never made it to the last movie. now i will never know what happened to poor Anikan (or however you spell it)
ImmaBeAlright Posted August 17, 2006 Posted August 17, 2006 I have found that I am full of hatred and venom for my ex and mostly for my friend (a former good friend) who is dating him. Seriously. I HATE them. I get angry when I think of them and that is often. I have to work with her so that doesn't help matters and when she runs her fingers through her hair trying to be all cute or sexy or whatever it is that she is thinking, I want to grab her hair and set it on fire. Grrrr. End Rant Don't feel bad, I think it is normal. You will get over the anger in time. I am a believer in not making excuses for one's feelings, unless of course you hurt someone. So, as long as you are not ripping her hair off her scalp or sabotaging her at work, its all good. You'll be fine in time. Damn heffa, i don't know her and I wanna pull her hair off her scalp myself.... LOL
Teacher's Pet Posted August 17, 2006 Posted August 17, 2006 God I hate that you said that. My ex was the first person to ever get me to watch Star Wars. I watched it in the logical order, not the order it was released. and we never made it to the last movie. now i will never know what happened to poor Anikan (or however you spell it) Wait.. if you watched Star Wars in the "logical" order, then you know about Anakin's fate.... the last one released was #3 "Revenge Of The Sith"..... which shows Anakin's fate, but it leads into #4 (which was the first one actually released)... So, just to clear it up.. here's the basic idea of #3..... Anakin finds out he's going to be a daddy, but keeps having recurring nightmares that Padme will die in childbirth. He tells this to his new "friend" Palpatine, who says that if he embraces the Dark Side, he can learn of powers that will save her from her fate.. Palpatine (who is actually a Sith Lord in disguise) uses this to sway Anakin into thinking the Jedi are evil and trying to take over the Republic, so Anakin and Palpatine begin killing the other Jedi, including Mace (Samuel L. Jackson) Anakin flees to a volcanic planet (I don't know the name, I'm not THAT much of a geek!) and Obi-Wan pursues him, where they have a huge battle, and Obi-Wan knocks him into the lava, burning him almost to death. Anakin is recovered by Palpatine, and is treated by being encased in a black suit...... and I think you can figure out the rest..... Just trying to help.
Author AtLongLast Posted August 17, 2006 Author Posted August 17, 2006 Don't feel bad, I think it is normal. You will get over the anger in time. I am a believer in not making excuses for one's feelings, unless of course you hurt someone. So, as long as you are not ripping her hair off her scalp or sabotaging her at work, its all good. You'll be fine in time. Damn heffa, i don't know her and I wanna pull her hair off her scalp myself.... LOL Thank you!! We LSers gotta stick together because other people really do suck. I can not believe that stuff I have had to put up with from this ex and his freakin girlfriend. It's beyond all comprehension. If I need help beating her ass though....I'll post. J/K moderators.
Mollyanna Posted August 17, 2006 Posted August 17, 2006 Wait.. if you watched Star Wars in the "logical" order, then you know about Anakin's fate.... the last one released was #3 "Revenge Of The Sith"..... which shows Anakin's fate, but it leads into #4 (which was the first one actually released)... So, just to clear it up.. here's the basic idea of #3..... Anakin finds out he's going to be a daddy, but keeps having recurring nightmares that Padme will die in childbirth. He tells this to his new "friend" Palpatine, who says that if he embraces the Dark Side, he can learn of powers that will save her from her fate.. Palpatine (who is actually a Sith Lord in disguise) uses this to sway Anakin into thinking the Jedi are evil and trying to take over the Republic, so Anakin and Palpatine begin killing the other Jedi, including Mace (Samuel L. Jackson) Anakin flees to a volcanic planet (I don't know the name, I'm not THAT much of a geek!) and Obi-Wan pursues him, where they have a huge battle, and Obi-Wan knocks him into the lava, burning him almost to death. Anakin is recovered by Palpatine, and is treated by being encased in a black suit...... and I think you can figure out the rest..... Just trying to help. Thanks TP. lol
Brittanyjean06 Posted August 17, 2006 Posted August 17, 2006 Yes as everyone else is saying don't hit her, don't ........... get someone else too. Just joking I know some people say " forgive and forget ", but honestly I can tell you can't help but hate this girl I bet she eats you up inside causing you to grind her teeth with a snarl :-/ I would try to get a different job though that would be going overboard with this. Hate will go away in time and you can't just tell your self not to hate someone unless your never going to stop hating them and always have that hate for them inside, so hate her, and let time heal the hatred that you have for her, don't act on it and try not to think about it too much or you will really start thinking of acting on this hate.
cerebus Posted August 24, 2006 Posted August 24, 2006 But revenge is sweet, so if everything else everyone said doesn't work.... Don't get mad get even....... here is an interesting site that can give you ideas on how to it, some are vicious others are just annoying asnd harmless, but effective. paybacksrhell.com
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