Wes Posted August 16, 2006 Posted August 16, 2006 I'm sorry I have to make a new post on a different subject every other day, but this is the first break-up I've ever experienced, and I'm taking it pretty hard right now. As some of you may know, my gf of 1.5 years broke up with me a week ago because she felt that she was missing out on being young, felt like she was tied down, etc. etc, blah blah. (I'm 21 and she's 20, btw) It was a pretty sudden break-up for me. For the last 1.5 years, everything had been seemingly going perfect, and then out of the blue, she asked for a two-week break. Then at the end of the break, she decided we should date other people..."for a while." So I asked if that meant we were breaking up, and she said yes. Well, she said that she would still like to be good, close friends, and I told her that that can't happen. I said that if I'm going to be able to heal and move on, there is no way we can be friends, for a long time, at least. I then deleted her number from my phone and her profile from my myspace. It sounds like I'm taking the break-up well, right? Wrong.... The entire time we were together, we were each other's best friend. We knew everything about each other, did everything together, depended on one another for emotional support, trusted each other completely, and we were truly each other's best friend. She told me all the time that the thought of me not being in her life made her want to cry, and I felt the same way. So the day she broke up with me, in just a matter of seconds, she went from being my best friend to being non-existent in my world, which has hurt more than words can describe. When we were together, I had never had such a good friend as her. I think the hardest thing about this break-up is that I feel like I've lost my best friend. Also, this past week, I've felt like I've been on a roller coaster. One day I do OK, and the next day I do a little better, but then the next day, I cry so much that it gives me a headache. Plus, on top of all that, I feel bad for rejecting her request to be friends. Her brother has strongly hinted to me that she thinks I hate her now. I don't want her to think I hate her, because I don't. I am no longer in love with her, but I do love her. However, I feel like I can't tell her these things because talking to her will only take me back to square one of my healing process. I've never felt so lost before in my life.
Guest Posted August 16, 2006 Posted August 16, 2006 Hey man, I know exactly where you're coming from. My now ex:( girlfriend broke up with me about a week ago after dating for 2 years. It's been hell for me. The no contact is something that I am having an extremely hard time with. But her and I were bestfriends for about 3 years and there wasn't a thing about eachother we couldn't recite off the top of our head. Just wanted to let you know that I know your pain. Wish this was all so easier. Good luck with everything. Matt
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