ex got new bf

[no1really]

i just found out 2nite my ex has a new bf

after 14yrs and a 13yr daughter my ex and where having problems

i get bad news from the doctor time to change things in my life

we where having problems been on going for ages to be honest but i love her and she says she loves me ...so you try to do the right thing.

i said about moving to back to my parents place so we can may work things out ,she said "well i wanted u out anyway". iam unsure if it a true feeling or just a cover up of her true feeling ,she hard to understand hides her true feeling from being in bad relationship before we meet ( he was not a nice person treated her badly)

 

anyway ..So i moved to my parents (as they live in france alot and i moved in after they went back over).

hoping we can maybe have some space to breath and talk.well it didnt go as planned.she been playing up abit not talking to me ,our daughter would give massages from my ex or our would txt me saying mum said can u or do this want that not all the time but thing that my ex should tell me on the phone or txt me

 

my ex just says she dosent want nothing to do me ectectect (once again knowing my ex thinking its her way to deal with the problems like she does easy to say what ever,not my problem or just going quite on me )

so we had to speak this evening we sort spoke about whats going on and things i said "well u cant treat your bf like this its not on (thinking to myself maybe she time to think about us and stuff and maybe we chat a bit more about true feeling and stuff ) to hear how did you know ......man i heart sank i felt sick and didnt know what to say i wasnt ready for that 1

she did say she not had sex with him yet still my heart sank to my feet

 

tbh iam gutted iam unsure what to do now she got anything we had i still pay for the house (my house my morage even tho i still let her live there for our daughter bad enuff we split up in her eyes let alone kicking her out to some crap flat i cant do that to our dauhter)

 

so iam ere 3.30am in morning cant sleep still feel sick and empty trying make sense of it all ....man where did all go wrong this not what i wanted i love her with all my heart.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

[no1really]

well it 1.15pm

i still cant get my head over this...man bad day 2day

god it hurts... iam putting a brave face at work but the cracks are beginning to show

 

not looking forward to friday picking up my daughter

i try and stay calm and focus but it hurts and i not seen my ex yet

[sexyLMC]

i dont really know what to say to you after reading your post..

ive just split up with my ex but its nothin compared to what your going through..

the only thing i can say to u is..

you only get one life.. and if u and ur partner split up then i believe its just the way things are meant to be..

Im not saying you are but sometimes all of us feel sorry for ourselfs for whatever the reason.. i always do over little things liek breaking up with people.. money probablems e.c.t

but at the end of the day theres alot more people in the world who are alot worse off then u and me and alot of the other heart broken people on here..

just because a chapter of your life has coem to a close doesnt mean that the whole book has to be closed..

theres only one person in the world who can help u and thats yourself..

it does hurt loads when you split from someone who has been a big part of your life..

but you really just cant let that ruin the rest of your days..

all the time your sitting in doors thinking about it is

another minute, hour,day,week,month that your wasting of your own life..

 

you've got a daughter thats not much younger then me..

think about her, take her out, buy her shoes,, spoil her

Prove your the better person in this..

i know its hard but you will get over this it just takes time..

im sorry to hear about what your goign through..

best of luck hun

x

p.s sorry for the spelling mistakes i type to fast for my brain to keep up..lol

[no1really]

hehehe .....shoes

want is it with women and shoe

 

ty for the replay

me and my daughter are on holiday in france in a next week

it be nice to have some time with her

[no1really]

good morning all

 

well bit of a update

i have had a good chat with my ex last nite

told her how i feel and where I went wrong in the relationship and what i will do to try and put things right.

it was a bit of a beg but there was things i needed to say.

she wants to give the new guy a try ...so now its time to move on.

i do hope she knows what she doing and whats she throwing away but it her loss now not might, i know i have done what i can to try to make things right but she dosnt want it

i spoke to our daughter last nite and she ok understands and she knows i done what i can,we are on a new journy now with good things to come.

she knows she can phone my mob ,home and work ,txt and welcome to stay with me anytime.

 

i have found out my ex has lied about things after we spoke from a friend of ours he didnt want me sitting around waiting so it made me more stronger to get on with things .i have alot to do and it even bought me and my daughter closer in our bond togther which is good.

the pressure is off my daughter now about having to hide things for me and understands that if she unhappy with whats my ex does she can tell and to tell her mum she unhappy with whats been said or whats happen and if gets no joy then iam ere for her all she got to do is ask.i know it will hurt for sometime but head up stand tall.

 

 

my advice to people

be honest to yourself and others make sure you feel that you have done and tryed what YOU can to put things right.

if you love the person tell them ...man i thought she going to think iam right &^%* last night but i got a lot of my chest and feel alot alot better knowing i did what i did was right and hosent and true .

i know sometimes people just dont care and it hurts but iam feeling good at the moment anyway.

 

i read alot of storys and seen alot of people of read mine it good to know you are not the only 1 going though a **** time.

 

be strong be pround and stand with our head up high.

i wish very1 great happyest in life

 

ty to sexyLMC i will buy my daughter some shoes

 

great site and iam sure it helped alot of people out there ...it has me.

great to know i have somewhere to go

best of luck all

 

this my story i hope it helps some1 else who might be going through the same sort of thing.

[no1really]

i hope people don’t mine if i put a few things down here.

tbh i feel i need to write stuff down, I think its help in the healing process.

well......

being a bit of cynical person in life. I dont know what things mean to people,

like love i know how it feels to have a broken heart now.

i do believe in true love ,soul mates and all that.

the broken heart thing... people saying about the stabbing pain and its broken ...... i was always "you get over it tomorrow sod them and so what,life a s*&T but never mine " after reading this site and others for Guidance in my pain and hurt i have come to realise that.... GOD!!!! how wrong iam and know how they feel.

Last weekend i had out daughter over for 2 nites,saturday afternoon i went to the big mans shop for some new cloths,we went for a walk with some lunch sat down and started to talk about things.

found out she is so upset in all this she had to keep things from me as she didnt want to upset me.We ended up in tears she feels so left out in her mums life at the moment .her mum as done things to make her feel this way i have tryed to tell our daugter that iam sure this is not true and really needs to tell her how she feels.

me and my ex have been so stupid and childish at late well most of the time and angry with each other we lost the meaning of things for us as a couple and not as parents and our daughter been more of adult in all this then us

 

I think and so do our friends up the road ( i have spoken to them about this but the dont want really want to get involved in this which i understand)

that my ex is making a mistake in wants she is doing and taking the easy road in this ,just because someone as shown her some attention she jumped in with both feet and not looked at the bigger picture.

there been few things my ex as said done to point at this

the new guy.. well the guy is a friend of her friends so its a nice happy little 4 some for going out also i have found out they been putting the boot and stirring it for us ..the usually you be better off without him he ,no good and nick the sun shine out of arse sort of stuff

i cant say nothing as it look like iam causing the problems then and have to let her get on with but it very hard to watch someone you true love make this mistake in life.

i know how i feel and say here sound abit of hope and tbh it is but also iam the sort of person that can understand i cant control the situation and have to sit back and watch it.

 

thats it for abit

i better get on with some work:rolleyes:

[no1really]

please feel free to ask questions for me to answer