juicyanne Posted August 15, 2006 Posted August 15, 2006 I've been seeing this guy for about a month. I like him a lot... but we have sooo many misunderstandings and miscommunications, it's making things crazy. It started before we were even dating. He worked at our college bookstore, and I'd visit him a lot because he said he was always bored there. For the longest time I thought we were just hanging out as friends. In fact I thought he was gay for most of that time. But then one day out of the blue, he kissed me. I was totally shocked and he just said, "I figured we've been dating long enough now, it's about time we kissed." I was like WTF, we're DATING? Thanks for letting me know. That was misunderstanding #1... Once we were officially dating, things got worse. We'd agree to meet somewhere at 4:00, he'd show up at 6:00. I'd be mad about having waited for 2 hours... and he'd be like, "why did you show up two hours early? We agreed for 6:00." This has happened more times than I can count! He also lives about fifty miles from me during the summer, but is trying to move and get a full-time job here. Two weeks ago, I said that if he needed to come up here for a job interview, he could crash at my place instead of getting a motel. Then last week, I was talking to him about how the lease on my apartment is going to be up pretty soon. And that I either need to renew or find a new place. He said: "Oh, good, this will be the perfect time for us to move in together." I freaked out and said I cared about him, but there is NO WAY I'm moving in with someone I've only been seeing for a month. He was like, "Um, sweetie, YOU are the one who said I could come move in with you... you JUST said that a few weeks ago, remember?" And I was like WTF??? I meant you could stay for a day or two during an interview..? Those are just a few examples, but these things happen every day it seems. The worst part is, I always end up feeling like it's my fault (even though I suspect it's him most of the time) because of the way he twists things around. I feel like I'm living in the twilight zone. I've started writing down the exact times/places we agree to meet, even writing down his exact words from conversations, just to make sure I'm not crazy. If we're having so many communication problems this early in the relationship, I'm worried about the future. This can't possibly be good. And even though I like him, my patience, and sanity, is starting to wear thin... what should I do??
norajane Posted August 16, 2006 Posted August 16, 2006 Stop dating him and start dating a guy who isn't psycho...and who won't make you out to be psycho.
tinktronik Posted August 16, 2006 Posted August 16, 2006 If nothing else he sounds nurotically entertaining.
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