Dayna3d2 Posted August 15, 2006 Posted August 15, 2006 Hey Im new here and need some advice. I started seeing this guy almost a month ago. Everything was great, I heard from him or saw him at least once a day and he has even suprised me by poping up un-announced. Since saturday things have been completely different. It still calls but it is more so returning my phone calls. He's never really the one to call first. Also he says that he wants to see me but then calls back and says he can't becuase somthing has come up. It's wierd because he's not completely blowing me off, he at least calls. Anyways this sudden change is really bothering me. I talked to him last night but I havn't seen him since last week and would like to see him tonight, but i don't want to bother him by calling to invite him over. Do i call, drop the invite and if it falls through again quit trying or do i just wait for him to call.
Sally00 Posted August 15, 2006 Posted August 15, 2006 I know exactly how you feel. This has happened to me on several occassions. So my advice to you is: DO NOT CALL HIM. He probably lost interest in you or somethin'. I don't know why guys change their minds so quickly. But it's HIS loss. Don't waste your time on someone who's not even worth it. Show him that you don't need him. Don't call.
Author Dayna3d2 Posted August 15, 2006 Author Posted August 15, 2006 What i don't get is if he has just lost interest, why does he stil return my phone calls. When i do talk to him he tells me all about what he did that way, who he was with and such. I can't help but get the feeling that maybe he did somthing this past weekend that he is feeling guilty about? Also he started a new job that takes up takres up his enitre day so maybe hes just been busy??
Sally00 Posted August 15, 2006 Posted August 15, 2006 I don't know. He's probably just being polite? Or maybe he's confused at the moment and doesn't want to entirely let you go? It's possible he could be busy, also. My boyfriend is busy too working a lot. But he atleast takes the time to call. But then again you 2 aren't official... are you?
Author Dayna3d2 Posted August 15, 2006 Author Posted August 15, 2006 no we're not official so he doesnt have to call often, he has just gotten me so used to it that its strange when he doesnt. Update: So he left a voice mail on my phone saying that he was sorry about last night and that he fell asleep. he said he wasn't sure what he was doing yet tonight but that he'd call when he was done working. So heres my verdict- hes either the king of mixed signals, or everything is fine Im just so used to things getting messed up that im creating my own issues.
Author Dayna3d2 Posted August 16, 2006 Author Posted August 16, 2006 Okay now im really confused. He came over last night. I wasnt suprised that he wasnt very affectionate (his friend was with him.) Usually when he leaves he gives me a kiss goodbye, last night, nothing. Not even a hug. I keep getting the feeling that he's going to walk away. If he is going to i wish he'd just do it instead of dragging this out. Its like he waits untill im ready to walk away and then comes back. What really confuses me is the way his firends talk about me. We're not even officially together but they all still refer to me as "his girl" and say that he talks about me often. iF thats the case why is he playing games. WTF i can't understand men.
Author Dayna3d2 Posted August 18, 2006 Author Posted August 18, 2006 Another update: He broke it off. I approached him about it and he said that he just wasn't ready for another relationship. I was fine with this and asked him if the way things are between us is oaky or if i need to back off. He said that he really enjoyed hanging out with me and that everything was fine he just wasn't ready to take it to the next level. I havn't heard from him since.
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