Guest Posted August 15, 2006 Posted August 15, 2006 My ex-boyfriend broke up with me about 2 weeks ago because of classic commitment issues. We parted on good terms and have since talked on the phone and hung out on several occassions. However, everytime I talk to him, I ask him questions in regards to "us." Like, "Why can't you commit? Will you ever be able to commit? Is there any hope of us getting back together in the future?" He gets annoyed with me and these questions, but remains firm in his decision to be broken up. So then why, if he is so adamant about not dating me, does he continue to call me?
JaneInVegas Posted August 16, 2006 Posted August 16, 2006 I wish there was a quick & easy answer to this one. Men are just so ... weird. (sorry guys) My current boyfriend and I break up on a semi-regular basis, but he constantly calls me. I can't speak for your guy, but mine is addicted to his cell phone and gabbing all day long. Even if we can't seem to get our groove going, we still respect & care about each other a lot. In my opinion ... simply don't answer his calls. And you certainly DON'T want to keep asking him about the committment thing, if nothing else it's just going to drive him nuts and he'll continually be mad at you. Put him on the defense, and let him know you're not waiting around for him to call anymore. How long did you say you'd been broken up? - I can't remember what you said in your post, sorry. It's probably been long enough that you need to let him know you're not always Miss Available. Sometimes a guy just needs to feel the real, hard core pain of the possibility of *really* losing you. It will probably make you or break you ... either way you win. You won't be spinning your wheels in a non-committed relationship anymore.
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