funnybear Posted August 15, 2006 Posted August 15, 2006 in the very beginning of our relationship, i cheated on him with my ex boyfriend before him who i had not gotten over. i told him about it and he was fine with it and forgave me. we dated for about 9 months and we fell so in love. at the end of the 9 months we were beginning to fight a lot. he said it was because of all the built up anger he had towards me from when i had cheated on him months earlier. we broke up, got back together, broke up, got back together.. for a hard couple of months. he had played with my heart and emotions a lot, maybe without meaning to.. i finally was beginning to be ok with the idea of us being over. i had some great friends i was seeing almost every night and he was off my mind. he met a girl on myspace and began dating her almost instantly. a week later he contacted me and a spark was rekindled. we played minature golf, went to the movies and then back to his place. we ended up having sex. he said he understood why i had cheated on him because the same sort of situation had happened to him. he broke up with that girl the next day. i went to the beach a couple days later and we talked through out the whole week i was gone. when i got back he took me to dinner and back to his place but i was having second thoughts. i was scared of getting hurt again. i told him and he was hurt. we of course started talking again but then he changed his mind about me. i've recently had a falling out with my friends and am home a lot now with him on my mind. he came onto this website and has a whole new perspective on things. now he thinks its best that we dont see each other at all and have very little contact.. and it hurts b/c all i can remember are the good old days. we tried for so long to make it work again. he knows me better than anyone else. how can i get him out of my head?
Guest- djangelboy Posted August 26, 2006 Posted August 26, 2006 i saw this post..and had to reply..... my gf dumped me a day before goin to see family in another state....wont tlak to me now....has removed all her pictures of us.. taken everyhting ive given her and tossed it..tells me to f off and stuff liek that ..................... in a few years i will prolly go say hey to her..but im afraid by that time shell be married with kids..... love is truth to yourself.. love makes all things comfortable...
loveinlife Posted August 26, 2006 Posted August 26, 2006 Funnybear, how are you doing today? I understand your frustration about the whole NC thing that your ex is doing to you. One of the reason why NC is there is to help us get over our ex. Second thing about NC is that you will find out if the other person misses you. Third thing is that, if its fate and true love, then the other person will aways come back to your life( A good reason not to trip over a relationship, if you believe in true love) Life is too short to waste over thinking about a person who doesn't think much for you. I was NC with my ex for three months after we broke up. Since then, she calls me up once in awhile to check up on me. I do the same for her also. We are just friends now, I know she met someone else during our time apart. But I am not sure how there relationship is working. I just saw her last night at the clubs with her friends. I didn't want to show her that I still had feelings, so I just played cool and relaxed and acted like I was having so much fun, which I was regardless bc I was buzzed...hehe. Besides breaking up with her, I was living with low self-esteem. This got me to change a lot apparently, so I was looking better by working out, new wardrobe. I think it got to her at the club, she looked kind of sad when she stared at me and when she came to talk to me, like she lost something that was so great. This morning she called, I was sort of surprised. Is the whole NC thing really working to my advantage that she is starting to miss me? i don't really know. However, my philosophy in life is to enjoy the moment and not let the past spoil all the fun and create a unhealthy lifestyle that I could achieve. What is in the past is in the past, it is a false alarm of our current feelings. Also, the only person who knows ourselves is ourselves. They might know you well, but we are our own lover and bestfriend. I take my experience, last ex, as a learning experience. I am glad that it happened while I am still in my twenties. I've learned to not be so attached bc it'll make life miserable when the other person no longer feels the same or is not there for you for some particular reason. As a result, we will learn how to live a more successful and healthy life and enjoy being who we are without someone being there. Good luck to you funnybear, life works out in a ironic way. Eventually when we get better through lots of mourning, we'll realize there are better things in life than to worry about a relationship. ________________________________________ Long term happiness is to be happy with oneself.
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