silktricks Posted August 19, 2006 Posted August 19, 2006 I'm glad that you've moved on, UKOW. I wish you happiness in your future. I hope that you find someone to whom you can give your whole heart.
Blind Illusion Posted August 20, 2006 Posted August 20, 2006 My point is NOT that getting over someone is easy. It's not easy, it's d*mned difficult. BUT if after you've decided that you will NOT be with someone, for whatever reason, then you need to stop telling yourself that you love him with all your heart. As long as you do that you will NOT HEAL, you will not recover, you will only keep hurting and loving and hurting and loving and hurting some more. Sometimes, I think people do that. Even do all the "right" actions in the hope that the feeling will follow through too. Yet, there is always that undeniable inner gut feeling, in which you love someone and cannot deny that, even to yourself. It can't be turned on and off at whim (lest it wouldn't be love but some watered down facsimile of) Maybe that's why relationships and break-ups are never such a quick simple thing. Much as you tell yourself that you will not feel a certain way, it takes loads of time for this to be so. If its at all possible.
silktricks Posted August 20, 2006 Posted August 20, 2006 Sometimes, I think people do that. Even do all the "right" actions in the hope that the feeling will follow through too. Yet, there is always that undeniable inner gut feeling, in which you love someone and cannot deny that, even to yourself. It can't be turned on and off at whim (lest it wouldn't be love but some watered down facsimile of) Maybe that's why relationships and break-ups are never such a quick simple thing. Much as you tell yourself that you will not feel a certain way, it takes loads of time for this to be so. If its at all possible. All I'm talking about is giving oneself a chance to heal. Love is real, but even love will diminish and change given the chance to do so. Letting go does not diminish its reality.
Blind Illusion Posted August 20, 2006 Posted August 20, 2006 All I'm talking about is giving oneself a chance to heal. Love is real, but even love will diminish and change given the chance to do so. Letting go does not diminish its reality. I guess. It just takes such a long time to do so and so many attempts. For me, anyhow. It's difficult to do what is better for us when one is in conflict with oneself (and i am not saying that you claimed it was easy..I know you didn't) We aspire to make good choices but so often we don't. We opt for the donut instead of the peach, the car ride instead of the 3 block walk, or the love in which we'd be better off not having. I guess all we can do is remember that we can just keep on trying to make the better choice. Sometimes we will....sometimes not.
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