wow Posted August 14, 2006 Posted August 14, 2006 Evening my freinds, My girl friend has informed me that she feels distant from me and is not getting the emotional touch she wants from me. I am glad she told me this because this tells me she requires something from me and that I need to give it to her. She could have just kept silent and broke up with me... Brief background, she loves me and I love her. We have been going out for 1 year and we were freinds for around 18 months before. The last year has been great but we are always doing things(movies, clubs, restaurants etc) and I neva really sit back(chill out) and express my emotions to her. My questions is, is there something wrong and how do i fix it? Any tips from the ladies out there? And can anyone relate to what i am saying? Thanks a million, have a supa day. PS. I do avoid emotional talk and issues.
DarkMessenger Posted August 14, 2006 Posted August 14, 2006 Ah.. the whole "distant" issue... I'm guessing that before you were with her you were a "keep yourself to yourself" kind of person.. I used to be the same, and still to a large extent am... I found the easiest way of dealing with this is to just sit and talk about problems that you have... Starting with "I have a problem but I'm a little uneasy talking about it" will generally help.. even if you don't get a solution from her she'll at least recognise that you're not trying to shut her out...
norajane Posted August 14, 2006 Posted August 14, 2006 If talking and telling her your feelings is hard, then show her in other ways. Do nice things for her, and be very affectionate physically when you are together. Hold her hand, kiss her often, touch her frequently, stroke her leg or arm at the movies, give her hugs frequently. (Do all this touching all the time, not just as a warm-up to sex). Gradually work your way up to saying the words she needs to hear. If "I love you" is hard for you, tell her you love the way the sun makes her eyes sparkle, or how beautiful she is, or how you love the way she laughs. Compliment her often. Thank her for the things she does for you - be appreciative of how she stocks your favorite beer or that she picked up a book or magazine she thought you'd like.
Author wow Posted August 14, 2006 Author Posted August 14, 2006 WOW, both of you have hit the nail on the head!! I will put it to the test and i am sure i will get back a postive response. Thanks for the great advice.
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