chichi Posted August 14, 2006 Posted August 14, 2006 ok so i havent wrote in a long time but i am having a issue and i want someone opinion on it because i am about to go crazy, if you have read my other threads than you knew what was going on with the love of my life and how he told me he just wanted to be single for awhile even though i was perfect for him. well now its a weird situation...we didnt talk for a couple months and now we have been texting eachother every once in a while to see how the other is doing. he still tells me everything about his life and how things are going good and bad. well last week i called him to see how he was doing and that i was aorund where he lived he asked if i was going to coem by and see him...i replied do you want me to and he said yes so i went up to his house. we ended up going out to this really nice res. and had a wonderful time just talking about everything. its weird because everytime we talk we end up talking about his brother and his gf and about how their relationship is so messed up because they dont let eachtoher go out and what not, he always makes remarks like well we were never like that when we were together and about how our realtionship was so much different. we went back to his house and were cuddling on his couch (all i could think is i wanted hime to hold me forever) well he wasnt feeling good so i told him to go to his room so i could massage him. he was just laying there and i was massaging him, he kept putting his arm around me and holding me well one thing led to another and we ended up making love. It was amazing!!! we got up and then took a shower together and then laid back down and held eachother. the next day i decided to call him and see if he was feeling better he told me no and that he was really busy that he would call me later because he was trying to pack to leave for NY for his brothers b-day. I havent spoken to him since (when he is with his family he doesnt like to talk to anyone) my ? is do i play it cool, bring upo how i miss him so much and i want him back....or what i dotn know what to do? i love him so much and i just want him i have tried to move on but all i can think about is him??? what do i do pleas ehelp me because i just want him back!! i dont want to bring up the relationship because im scared it might scare him away!!
superconductor Posted August 14, 2006 Posted August 14, 2006 Actions speak louder than words anyway, so resist the urge to pour your heart out with a cascade of "I miss you" and "We were so perfect together" statements.
Author chichi Posted August 14, 2006 Author Posted August 14, 2006 so how do i let him know that i want to be with him and not exactly say it???? i dont want him to think that i would be ok with just being FWB!!!
AwkwardMan Posted August 14, 2006 Posted August 14, 2006 so how do i let him know that i want to be with him and not exactly say it???? i dont want him to think that i would be ok with just being FWB!!! What's wrong with FWB? I'm sure this will get resolved very quickly once he gets back though. PS You will scare him away if that's not what he's looking for. It sucks but that's life.
Green Posted August 14, 2006 Posted August 14, 2006 You should be clear when you tell him that you missed him so he doesnt asume it was sex you missed, you dont want to make him feel like a sex object...
norajane Posted August 14, 2006 Posted August 14, 2006 So, he broke up with you. Then you have sex. And now you're worried that he won't know you want to be with him so you want to pour your heart out to him with I miss you and please come back? Sweets, have more respect for your own value than that. He knows you, and he knows what you want. You don't need to beg him to come back to you if he really wanted to. If you don't want a FWB relationship with him, don't have sex with him! Then he'll know you don't want it. If you want to be friends, don't have sex with him! If you want him back, don't give him all of yourself, or any of yourself. How will he miss you if you cling?
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