Guest Posted August 14, 2006 Posted August 14, 2006 About a year ago I met a woman, who was involved in a relationship with 2 kids. i was married at the time with 1 kid, when we first met it was like electricity between us, we met more an more in secret and our relationship developed and we fell in deeply in love. I left my wife and Iam going trough a divorce. She told me she wants to leave her man and has told him so, and he has said she can go, but without the kids, he said she can leave anytime but without the kids, so she is like a prisoner as she cannot leave him. We still have to see each other in secret as her man is a very jealous man and said if she ever had an affair or if he caught he would kill the other man and she would never see her kids again. She has told me they never talk and the atmosphere in the house is always silent and there is no communication between them, she is hoping that he will just get tired of it and leave her. But should I just keep waiting for her, it is so painful for me I cant get her out of my head, we text each other and phone each other daily. What should I do, please help
Guest Posted August 15, 2006 Posted August 15, 2006 About a year ago I met a woman, who was involved in a relationship with 2 kids. i was married at the time with 1 kid, when we first met it was like electricity between us, we met more an more in secret and our relationship developed and we fell in deeply in love. I left my wife and Iam going trough a divorce. She told me she wants to leave her man and has told him so, and he has said she can go, but without the kids, he said she can leave anytime but without the kids, so she is like a prisoner as she cannot leave him. We still have to see each other in secret as her man is a very jealous man and said if she ever had an affair or if he caught he would kill the other man and she would never see her kids again. She has told me they never talk and the atmosphere in the house is always silent and there is no communication between them, she is hoping that he will just get tired of it and leave her. But should I just keep waiting for her, it is so painful for me I cant get her out of my head, we text each other and phone each other daily. What should I do, please help Is ther anything practical you can do to help? This man must leave the house at some time, in which case she should take her opportunity. I would consider a womens refuge... perhaps she can go and see her doctor and ask for help? This situation cannot continue for her, the children or you. My ex husband refused to leave and it happened the hard way. He tried to walk out with the children (he was drunk) and became aggressive when I told him it was over. I called the police, and obtained an injunction. Stressfull and scary, but that was five years ago and I have never looked back. However, I would urge her to set a time limit on how long this can continue. One word of advice - it will only be the beginning of a comlpicated situation, and even when she does leave it will be hard and her head will be all over the place. One other thing - how are your wife/ex and child coping? Dont forget them too in all this drama. Its a shame the two of you met in such circumstances.
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