InaPanic Posted August 13, 2006 Posted August 13, 2006 I'm having a horrible time getting someone out of my head. Most of my days it is all consuming. But it is particularly difficult for me at night. Does anyone have any thought blocking suggestions. I try deep breathing but the thoughts just pop right back into my head. Also, will this get better in time even if I am still in contact with this person even though it is brief? I haven't been strong enough yet to do a NC which may end up being what i have to do for my own self-preservation.
Returning Posted August 13, 2006 Posted August 13, 2006 what i have to do for my own self-preservation. You said it InaPanic. First off you are not In a Panic, you are just you, may be feeling a little rough but you are you all the same. What sort of you you are is down to you and nobody else. What you think is down to you and nobody else, you are not what you think you are, but what you think; you are. So when you think of a certain 'someone' tell yourself "I am not with them any more, what they are doing is no concern of mine, I have a better life to lead and it is not with them." What you are doing mind-f**king over this whole situation is wasting your energy and making yourself unhappy, so stop it. Look inside yourself and find out why you are doing it, what makes you tick, then you will find the reasons not to be doing it. It is not love for the other someone, what makes you tick goes way back beyond that. Sure it hurts like a b*tch that they are gone, but they are gone, get over yourself. Only time will make you feel better but the clock doesn't start ticking toward your recovery until you start No Contact. Read the thread, take the walk, begin the journey to your happiness. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=56954
bluechocolate Posted August 13, 2006 Posted August 13, 2006 hmm..... I want to stop thinking about someone all the time, but I still keep in touch with them. Good luck with that then.
bluechocolate Posted August 13, 2006 Posted August 13, 2006 I am unsure of your gender bluechocolate. Ha! That seems to be a semi-regular thing 'round here, even though I've had my pic & gender up on my profile in the past. Go figure. oh - for what it's worth - I'm a bloke.
Returning Posted August 13, 2006 Posted August 13, 2006 Cool me too. I was going to ask your thoughts on a rather daft hypothesis that has been forming since I read one of MrPots posts. It has been said that men think about sex every few minutes, is it possible that with this flash across a male brain you connect it with the last person you where intimate with therefore think about them all the time? I too think about someone far more than is necessary and am not bugged by it anymore but will probably be releaved when it stops. NC goes in fits and starts, it was 16 yr thing. I am begining NC again and see where I get. Btw she kept the dog even though i trained it from a pup and looked after it's needs for the first 7yrs, miss me dog too.
bluechocolate Posted August 14, 2006 Posted August 14, 2006 It has been said that men think about sex every few minutes, is it possible that with this flash across a male brain you connect it with the last person you where intimate with therefore think about them all the time? **hi-jack** I think if the last person you were with you were with them for 16 years, then yes, your thoughts about sex will probably be closely connected with them for a while. 16 years is a life time - no wonder you think about them a lot, sex or not. But of course there are always variables. What if the sex was crap? Maybe then you'd be thinking about sex every few minutes, but with someone else! I don't know your story (I take big breaks from this place), but when I have some more time I'll have a trawl & a read. Major bummer about the dog! I'm sure you have good reasons for not getting another. **hi-jack over**
johnnytable Posted August 14, 2006 Posted August 14, 2006 hmm..... I want to stop thinking about someone all the time, but I still keep in touch with them. Good luck with that then. I'm affraid you can't have it both ways.
Author InaPanic Posted August 14, 2006 Author Posted August 14, 2006 I guess i probably put this in the wrong section. We aren't 'officially' broken up.......things are very, very rocky but not broken up. I know it's what I NEED to do but I do not have the strength to do it yet. I am trying to cope until I get strong enough to just end it. So that is why there is still contact.
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