SuddenlyISee Posted August 13, 2006 Posted August 13, 2006 Okay, we're both females, I'm 19, and H is 21... I met H last year in April, at this point she was having issues with her partner who she was with for 2 years, so they'd kinda broken up. We really got to know each other, she lived 5 minutes from my college, and we basically connected instantly. I hadn't got any high hopes up at this point about being with her cos we hadn't known each other long, but a while after she had informed me she had gotten back with her ex. However much I liked her, I accepted it and dated other people. We still remained friends after this, and she used to get jealous whenever I said I was going to my partner's for the weekend, or if I was just going out to friends, so I knew she cared about me alot. Whenever things were going bad I was always there for her to talk to, and vice versa. Things got extremely bad towards the end of last year with her ex and H, the ex cheated on her etc, and the ex wanted to split. They finally split in April, and I was the first one H came and spoke to, because she doesn't have many friends due to losing them over her ex's possessiveness. We always kinda knew that we'd be together once H and her ex had split... Around a month or so after the split, we met up again, and things just developed. Things were going perfectly until I went on holiday in June, and spoke to H from there and she said she needed to speak to me. So I got home and found out that her ex had come down from 2 hours away for a music thing, and they decided to meet up to say hey. However, H realised that she still had feelings for this ex, so we had lots of space for her to try and sort her head. A little over a week she declared that she was still madly in love with me, and she didn't know why she still felt for the ex. H and the ex decided to meet and have like a 'final discussion' and tell her that her still feeling for her wasn't true, and that she doesn't want to get back with her, and that she's moved on. This went on for a while, and so I was releaved that'd had that chat and we were ready to carry on as we were before H had met with the ex. H cut complete contact with the ex, and didn't want anything to do with her. Now, last Tuesday she said she wanted a bit of space again cos she felt she was rushed into things from her ex with me. A couple of days before this she was saying she's so badly in love with me, etc... I said sure about her wanting space.. but that night I got upset, and she found out because I had something as my MSN name that indicated I was upset, and told me she didn't want to have space if it would upset me so much. So she suggested we went out on the Friday, we did.. had a great night. On the Tuesday she said she definitely wanted to cool things for now because she wants a bit of ''me time''. I quote: ''for 3 years i was with someone, then i just jump straight into another one, i shouldn't have done that, i had no time to get my head around stuff and do stuff for me.'' The next day, Weds she came online and was the first to say ''hey'' and I basically just said this isn't about me moving on, if you genuinely want the time to sort your head etc I'll be here... and she was like ''really?'' and said we could continue the chat the next day, but I had somewhere to go the next day.. So I haven't heard from her since that chat.. She went away for a week with her family yesterday, and this had been planned for other a month, although paranoia has snuck in. I read the same forum her ex posts on and I noticed one post saying ''I'm gonna be away for a bit..'' coincidental or paranoia?! I'd just like some of your views on it, and if it sounds like she genuinely wants ''me time'' and how to go about it regarding contacting her... Cheers!
Guest Posted August 15, 2006 Posted August 15, 2006 She messaged me this morning.. ''I'm sorry you're hurting, but I am too ok'' Does this mean she's regretting the break decision or what...?!
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