Guest Posted August 13, 2006 Posted August 13, 2006 So... I met a guy via the e personals that was a good match for me. He lives in SF, I do not. He left a vm for me and i head his voice for the first time, and I was shocked. I know this is generalizing so please do not be harsh, but he sounded really gay. Very enthusiastic, colorful, lisped, choice of words, etc- Jack McFarland gay. He does not sound anything like I would have guessed from his pictures and his dialogue. He looks like a guy-guy. This is a first for me, what should I do. He's really into it. I'm getting a bad vibe...
Kittiecat Posted August 13, 2006 Posted August 13, 2006 Listen to your gut. SF? I mean, if it looks like a duck and quacks like a duck...
stoopid_guy Posted August 13, 2006 Posted August 13, 2006 It's possible the guy's just flamboyant. Give him a chance...
Touche Posted August 13, 2006 Posted August 13, 2006 Tan's not gay! Anyway, I've met guys who sounded "gay" but weren't. And there ARE straight guys in SF (right Tan?) so don't judge a book by its cover.
Kittiecat Posted August 13, 2006 Posted August 13, 2006 Seriously, what straight guy is flamboyant? I know people like to make the Renaissance Man argument but c'mon. Real men chop down trees, wear flannel shirts, kill their dinner, watch sports and are silent about their feelings. Period.
Sally00 Posted August 14, 2006 Posted August 14, 2006 He may be metrosexual (lol). There was a guy who really really liked me... and I felt the same about him. But before, I thought he was gay... just his mannerisms and his looks. Apparently he wasn't... but then again, he started ignoring me outta nowhere. So he may have been gay and was confused or something? Just see what happens.
Hitman10000 Posted August 14, 2006 Posted August 14, 2006 http://images.google.com/images?q=Jack+McFarland&hl=en&btnG=Search+Images Kinda hard to tell, go on a date with him and see what happens. Online dating sucks.
norajane Posted August 14, 2006 Posted August 14, 2006 And why do you think a gay man would respond to a woman's personal ad? None of the gay men I know would waste their time on a woman when they really want men.
burning 4 revenge Posted August 14, 2006 Posted August 14, 2006 My ex-gf thought I was gay and I don't even talk gay. I don;t think she really thought I was gay though, I think she just enjoyed psychologically abusing me for the ED. And then there were the tranny bars.
magichands Posted August 14, 2006 Posted August 14, 2006 My ex-gf thought I was gay and I don't even talk gay. Dahling - there's a gay language??
Outcast Posted August 14, 2006 Posted August 14, 2006 And why do you think a gay man would respond to a woman's personal ad? Maybe he wants a beard. I'm sure there are still closeted gay men willing to do all sorts of things to remain deeply in their closets, including marrying. There are a lot of exuberant guys who aren't gay, but I think you have to have been born under a rock and lived in a cave to not know the sound of the sibilant gay nuanced speech that a lot of gay guys pick up. I just can't imagine a straight guy adopting that speech pattern and keeping it for any good reason.
magichands Posted August 14, 2006 Posted August 14, 2006 Seriously, what straight guy is flamboyant? I thought that you exclusively flirt with morons? (And then complain about their less-than-ideal relationship potential.) There's your answer - give a peacock a chance.
Sally00 Posted August 14, 2006 Posted August 14, 2006 http://images.google.com/images?q=Jack+McFarland&hl=en&btnG=Search+Images LOL he's cute for a "gay" guy.
stoopid_guy Posted August 14, 2006 Posted August 14, 2006 Seriously, what straight guy is flamboyant? I know people like to make the Renaissance Man argument but c'mon. Real men chop down trees, wear flannel shirts, kill their dinner, watch sports and are silent about their feelings. Period. I've known a few (not many) and finaly remembered Dom DeLuise's name. http://imdb.com/name/nm0001123/
Adunaphel Posted August 14, 2006 Posted August 14, 2006 So... I met a guy via the e personals that was a good match for me. He lives in SF, I do not. He left a vm for me and i head his voice for the first time, and I was shocked. I know this is generalizing so please do not be harsh, but he sounded really gay. Very enthusiastic, colorful, lisped, choice of words, etc- Jack McFarland gay. He does not sound anything like I would have guessed from his pictures and his dialogue. He looks like a guy-guy. This is a first for me, what should I do. He's really into it. I'm getting a bad vibe... I know some guys who sound like they are gay, but are not. On the other hand, I know a couple of men who look like the stereotype of the typical (straight!) alpha male (I apologize to our LS charming alphamale ) and are bisexual. If he is interested in you, at least you know he does like women. :) When you get to know him well enough to approach some subjects, you could talk about homosexuality and bisexuality in general...ask about his point of view...and see where the conversation goes from there. on a side note...you really get to know guys that are so interesting via the e-personals? wow!
britchick Posted August 14, 2006 Posted August 14, 2006 Gay men make fantastic husbands. Everyone thinks my SO is gay but he really isn't. Just a bit of a performer, likes shopping and nail varnish ( I know what you're all going to say!!) He also likes football and martial arts (hmm, perhaps it's that homoerotic thing). Go and meet him, you might at least end up with an interesting friend.
Touche Posted August 14, 2006 Posted August 14, 2006 Maybe he wants a beard. I'm sure there are still closeted gay men willing to do all sorts of things to remain deeply in their closets, including marrying. There are a lot of exuberant guys who aren't gay, but I think you have to have been born under a rock and lived in a cave to not know the sound of the sibilant gay nuanced speech that a lot of gay guys pick up. I just can't imagine a straight guy adopting that speech pattern and keeping it for any good reason. Some don't "adopt" it, they just sound like that. I SWEAR I had a guy friend that sounded like that but he was absolutely not gay. Maybe it was because he grew up around women only? Hell, I don't know. I never could figure it out. And I was always probing and watching for signs and he never displayed ANY signs of being gay whatsoever. But the guy sounds very gay. Even the WORDS he uses are "gay." I mean there are certain words that only women use like "lovely" and I can't think of any others right at the moment but he uses those words. Granted, it's unusual to find a man who talks like that who is not gay but I've met a few.
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