FlyingRose Posted August 13, 2006 Posted August 13, 2006 Hi Maybe Someone Can Give Me Some Advise I Am Married And Have A Four Year Old But My Husband Is Sick With Emphasemia He Is Also 20 Years Older Than Me But We Get Along Fine And Have Been Together For Over 20 Years But In The Last Three Has Gotten Sicker And Never Wants To Have Sex Or Show Affection I Have Talked To Him About Making An Effort To Show Some Affection But He Seems To Just Not Care But Long Story Shortened I Intend To Stay In My Marriage And Never Have Really Even Thought About Another Guy Until Lately I Started Feeeling Very Attracted To My Very Good Friend Coworker I Let Him Know Alittle Bit Of My Feelings About 3 Months Ago But Nothing Changed But Then He Decided To Quit The Job We Work At And I Expressed My Sadness In Him Leaving And Wanting To Continue Seeing Him Once In Awhile I Also Wrote Him A Goodbye Card And Letter And Further Detailed My Attachments To Him And He Declared He Didn't Feel The Same So I Said I Accepted His Feeling But On The Last Night After Work I Was Trying To Say Bye And Was Crying Some He Gave Me A Hug And I Placed My Hand On His Nothing Much At All And Asked If I Could See Him As A Friend Nothing Else Sometime And He Suddenly Became Very Angry And I Said Please Don't Be Mad And He Continued To Yell And Say It Was All My Fault And I Had Made Everything All Wierd And Walked Away Angry A Drove Off I Really Regret Ever Telling Him Any Of My Feeling And Want To Contact Him To Say I Am Sorry But Iam Afraid It Will Only Make Him Angrier I Just Hate To Loose Him As A Friend I Feel Like He Owes Me An Apoligy But I Know He Probably Won't At This Point Which Is Ok But What Should I Do To Get His Friendship Back Or Is It Lost Forever? This All Happened Three Days Ago And Is Driving Me Crazy And Making Me Feel Like A Fool And Sad And Rejected. Regetful Flyingrose:(
Touche Posted August 13, 2006 Posted August 13, 2006 Is this for real? And what's with the caps at the beginning of each word? He owes you nothing. You were out of line. You disrespected his wishes. He made it pretty clear to you where he stood and you violated his wishes. Try to work on your marriage and forget about your "friend."
Author FlyingRose Posted August 13, 2006 Author Posted August 13, 2006 I guess I need to clarify the reason for my writing about my troubled friendship was not to be told I made a terrible mistake I already know that although I did not purposely create these feeling for my friend I am sorry I ever let them be known My question is whether I should attempt to apolagize to him or just let it go? What are my options to get past the terrible mistakes I made I know I totally messed up I don't need to be made to feel worse and worse Regetful FlyingRose
Touche Posted August 13, 2006 Posted August 13, 2006 I wasn't trying to make you feel worse. I was only being honest. I don't know what it will accomplish to apologize. It doesn't sound like he wants a friendship of any kind with you. I'd let it go. There is no friendship here to save.
Yamaha Posted August 13, 2006 Posted August 13, 2006 If he is a true friend he will forgive you in time. You need to let him alone until he can process his emotions. He feels you are pushing him and he is the bad guy for not returning your interest. Time may heal the hurt. Can you really see him as just a friend or are you hoping he will change his mind?
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