SoCalCatman72 Posted August 13, 2006 Posted August 13, 2006 Ok, for those of you who have tried (and been somewhat successful) with online dating, I have some questions. I'm of the impression that women get a ton of e-mails from these matching sites, and if so, do you actually read each one, or just the first few lines before deleting it. I'm asking because late last night, I found a profile that made my heart skip a beat and if what she put up there is genuine, then she seems like a perfect match for me. I really want to meet her, I don't want to drop her the same old e-mail as all the other guys do, as I want to stand out. Any suggestions?
Outcast Posted August 13, 2006 Posted August 13, 2006 My suggestion is refrain from being too hasty about deeming someone a perfect match for you. People can sound ideal on paper (or on a screen) and be nothing like. Countless people come to much grief by placing far too many hopes and expectations on someone because of a photo and some lines of writing. Reel back your expectations and make no decisions about someone being 'perfect' until you've spent a lot of time together (i.e. months). Write a nice, sincere letter that sounds like 'you' and if she doesn't reply, then that would be a starter on why she might not be so perfect after all.
Adunaphel Posted August 13, 2006 Posted August 13, 2006 Ok, for those of you who have tried (and been somewhat successful) with online dating, I have some questions. I'm of the impression that women get a ton of e-mails from these matching sites, and if so, do you actually read each one, or just the first few lines before deleting it. I'm asking because late last night, I found a profile that made my heart skip a beat and if what she put up there is genuine, then she seems like a perfect match for me. I really want to meet her, I don't want to drop her the same old e-mail as all the other guys do, as I want to stand out. Any suggestions? I'm not sure if I can say I've been somewhat successful when I tried online dating, but I think most women check all mails. About reading them... well, I usually read all of them, and replied to all the emails that I did not find unpleasant in a way (I have to say that my threshold level for unpleasantness is very easily reached ) I'd suggest to keep the first email relatively short, to be careful with the spelling and grammar (well, you surely don't seem to have that kind of problems!), to sound polite and friendly and expecially to be yourself. Also, make sure that the e-mail you send looks like it has been written specifically for her (you can spot guys who send a copy of the same email to 50 women!!!), and do your best not to sound like someone who is "testing the waters" with any nice looking girl on the dating website. If she mentions any of her interests in the profile, and you have at least one interest in common, tell her so and ask her a question about it. Ask a couple of innocuous questions about something you read in her profile. Do not tell her that you find her beautiful/pretty. It's obvious you like her picture. also, avoid the "I'd like to get to know you better" line. again, it's obvious. just be friendly, funny, pleasant. and yourself.
stoopid_guy Posted August 13, 2006 Posted August 13, 2006 I understand the best line is to hint to them that you're royalty. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t96219/
john2776 Posted August 14, 2006 Posted August 14, 2006 I found a profile that made my heart skip a beat and if what she put up there is genuine, then she seems like a perfect match for me. My advice to anyone online dating, is that if you think like the above then you can be 99% certain that the profile is NOT genuine. On the 1% chance that she is genuine: Keep the email short, ask questions about the things that you likes about her, try and add some humour to your words, challenge her in some way. Don't try and sell yourself. If she is genuine the chances are she will reply, either in a positive or negative way. There are 1000's of great girls out there, so don't get obsessive with this one. In fact try email writing skills on girls that you are NOT interested in, just to get more confident in the online dating world. Its great once you figure it all out. Be wary of con-artists; ie has photo of a model, she likes playing playstation, prefers to watch sci-fi at home rather than go out, doesn't care about looks but prefers a great personality.... blah blah
bunnee Posted August 14, 2006 Posted August 14, 2006 just tell her exactly what stood out about her to you... and tell her about yourself... i have met people online and people who act like they are realy interested and are not trying to hard really catch my eye.... hope this helps
RecordProducer Posted August 14, 2006 Posted August 14, 2006 Yes, I was reading the whole email IF it was: 1. short 2. I liked the guy (in that case a longer one is OK, but in a long email you have to write something really smart, not about how you like camping and baseball). 3. it wasn't a circular email - something that he worte to send to everywoman without even refereing to me by my username. My advice is keep it simple and short. Mention something that you both like, but not something stupid like "We both share passion for music and restaurants." Make it a 5-liner. The etiquette is more important than the content. Use correct spelling and official laguage - you can't make a mistake with that approach. Be polite and kind. Say some compliment. Leave your contact, but don't insist on messenger programs. She might seem perfect for you, but she has to feel the same about you. Make sure your profile essays and photos are nice and describe you honestly. Good luck and keep us posted!
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