cool.aquarian Posted August 13, 2006 Posted August 13, 2006 Hi All. We are 4 friends (a girl aged 26, and we 3 guys are aged around 22-23). We all work at the same place and are very close friends since 7 months and we have very friendly relationship among us. We have lots of fun after office hours either in the Shopping Mall or Movie Theatre. Also the girl told us she is in no hurry to marry as she is loving this kinda life with us. Just a day back, one of our friend among us and the girl told me that they have just started to love each other and told me that they are telling this to me only because we four are true friends and told me not to tell this to any of the other friends outside our circle. After he went she asked me what are my feelings about this thing between them and gave me the freedom to say whatever i feel honestly. It was a totally unexpected news, and i accepted their decision and said told her iam fine with it as i had always looked at her as a friend (and age difference does not matter in love). She also told me he expressed his feelings to her 3 days back and told me why she also likes him and i agree with her.. he is a sweet guy. But later that day, i started feeling very insecure of my friendship with her. I also called her up once and she again asked me whether iam ok with her relationship with him. I told her iam ok because i dont want to in any way force anything on her. Please tell me what should i do, as i do not want her to ignore my friendship incourse of her love with the friend.
bluechocolate Posted August 13, 2006 Posted August 13, 2006 Please tell me what should i do... Be her friend. What else is there to do? Of course things will change somewhat in your circle of friends. Chances are they will want to spend time together, just the two of them, but such is life. This would happen regardless of who she met, the same goes for each of you. I told her iam ok because i dont want to in any way force anything on her. That is an odd statement. What could you force on her? I think you're interested in this girl as more than a friend, or maybe you weren't until she got involved? Whatever - if it starts to feel too weird for you around them just take a step back & cultivate some new friendships from outside of work if possible.
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