Vertex Posted August 13, 2006 Posted August 13, 2006 Just wondering what you all think about this. How does the status get determined? If the best relationships are where you are both friends and lovers, which comes first? If you're a friend first (before becoming a lover) you run the risk of remaining a friend such that it'd be "too weird" to also be a lover. If you're a lover first, then you run the risk of being together off lust alone, devoid of friendship. What determines if one ends up in the friend zone or not? How can you avoid getting stuck here?
Sally00 Posted August 13, 2006 Posted August 13, 2006 If you're a friend first (before becoming a lover) you run the risk of remaining a friend such that it'd be "too weird" to also be a lover. ... What determines if one ends up in the friend zone or not? How can you avoid getting stuck here? My boyfriend and I were friends first... for over a year... before we started dating. Yes, I thought it was going to be weird going out with him after being friends for a long time. I didn't know what it would be like... But we've been together for 6 months. The weirdness went away a long time ago. All I can tell you about this "friend zone" is is to talk to them about it and how THEY feel about it as well. Because it's different for everyone. Maybe they may find it weird... maybe they won't. Only they can tell you.
Author Vertex Posted August 13, 2006 Author Posted August 13, 2006 I suppose I am asking if most couples were friends first or if they moved straight into a relationship. If they did the former, how did they get past the weirdness? If they did the latter, how did they avoid becoming just a friend?
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