subtitled Posted August 13, 2006 Posted August 13, 2006 I'm not sure whether this guy is interested or his personality is just uber-friendly. I know that he is a really friendly person and his job is centred around people-skills and he's used to making people feel welcome and included etc, but i think there could be something between us? Any help with deciphering this situation is welcome. I know him through my housemates and I've met him 5 times now. When i first properly met him, I was visiting his house for a meeting. He was asking lots of questions about me and laughing at my daggy jokes. Quite a few times he was literally doubled over laughing. Someone in the group that we were hanging out with after i'd just made a joke said to me - "You should come every week!" and the guy I like said: "Yeah, you should!". And then at the end of the night, he said "you're welcome anytime." He was making quite a bit of eye contact and generally being warm towards me. The next time I saw him, my whole house was over at his place to watch the football on telelvision (not something I really enjoy, but what the hey). When I walked into his living room he said hi to everyone, but I thought I caught him staring at me for what seemed like a long time when I first entered. Then when he was getting us drinks, he seemed to be more self conscious than usual. Once again he laughed really hard at my jokes. Last week he got on my bus. We had a great conversation and he brought up the time i'd been to his place for the meeting and made some jokes about conversations/things that had taken place that night. Once again he laughed at my jokes. At the end he said it was good to see me again. Last night was my housemates' 21st. He was there and we spent probably about 1.5 - 2 hours in each other's company. At first were were chatting in a group. I have noticed that when we're in a group talking he makes a lot of eye contact with me and looks at me when he makes a joke. He was sharing a lot of stories/jokes with me. At one point someone suggested we should sit down and he looked at me and said "do you want to come sit down?". Then when we were sitting down, he sat next to me. Twice he shuffled his chair closer to me, because people were passing and he wanted to ask someone a question, but it was very close to me. His leg was touching mine. When we were talking I suggested mingling and he said "but I see everyone here pretty much twice a week" and then we just kept on chatting for about another hour, just me and him. The two people we were sitting with were having their own conversation. We found ourselves saying the same thing a few times and people kept saying how similar we were, in front of us. We thought about moving again, and I said, have you seen my housemates' baby photos and he said no and we went together over to the photos and we looked through them together. But then I had to make a speech and had to leave him. We didn't chat for about another hour or so. Then i got up to dance. I kept seeing him glancing at the people dancing, looking like he wanted to join in. Everytime I looked over at him he seemed to be looking at me. Then, once he could escape the conversation he was in, he came over and danced. He started off in a group of people next to the group I was dancing with, but his body kept being angled towards me. Then eventually he made an about face and joined in our group, but he did it in such a way it seemed like he didn't want to make it an obvious move. Then he stayed dancing and chatting with me and one or two other people for the rest of the night. He and I were the constants, other people were joining us, but they would leave us every now and then, whereas we stayed dancing and talking together. At the end of the night he didn't make a big deal of saying goodbye, it felt awkward because it seemed like we both wanted to say "see you XX" but we had no future appointments - we only ever see eachother socially and he wasn't about to ask me on a date, we've only met five times and he doesn't have my contact, but it seems like he might be testing the waters? What do people think?
Moai Posted August 13, 2006 Posted August 13, 2006 It seems like you notice little things way too much, but that is just me. Overall, I would say that he digs you, but isn't quite sure if you dig him or not, or is too shy to make a move yet. So, if you want to date him, ask him out. Then you'll know for sure.
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