jeffrey746 Posted August 12, 2006 Posted August 12, 2006 Back at the end of this past March, I met a girl at my best friends dads funeral. Everyone went back to my friends moms house afterwards. But I had noticed this girl, more beautiful than I've ever seen. I'm a family friend, I have been for years. So, we were all chatting and joking together and sometimes it was with this girl. Her family went to leave and as she was walking out the door, I shook her hand and asked if we could talk again and she wrote her number down. I agonized for 2 days finally calling her back. She had made such an impression on me. We talked about 5 times, while she was at college....During which time I found out she had a BF. I waited about a month to call her again this time on her birthday. I wanted our conversation to be special. A few weeks after that I called and just asked if we could hang out. We did, I took her to the ocean at a nice park and talked...I knew she had a BF but we were just talking. I fell in love with her that day. I'm friends with her brother and her parents like me. I eventually found out that she broke up with her BF because he just wasn't interested in her. Wouldnt come to see her, never took her anywhere nothing. When she told me, it was 2 weeks after. She had only dated him for 8 months while at college. I told her I understood and that I came up just be with her cause I missed her and that I thought she was the most beautiful girl inside and out that I'd ever met. All this with the sun setting, the wind in her hair next to a famous lake. We came back to her house and watched a movie and ate dinner. She told me we dont have much in common, which I know to be false she just hasnt seen it yet....And that the age is a factor cause I'm 27 and she is 19. Her mom loves me and has told me that we are a great match and that the age is nothing....But I get the feeling there is some jelousy with her brother because he knows I'd be perfect for her and he doesnt want to see her happy. I let 2 weeks go by and called she didnt answer cause she was at work so I left a message and she called me back right away after she got out...We talked for 25 mins or so, and I loved it. Now its been a week and I'm calling her tonight. I just dont know what to do...I love her seriously with all my heart and I'm truely sad now that I've met her and spent time around her because I miss her all the time. Please help...Thanks
Author jeffrey746 Posted August 12, 2006 Author Posted August 12, 2006 OK, So I just talked to her. We talked for maybe 20 mins. She was leaving the house to meet up with a couple friends. We talked about alot of little stuff, but it was so awesome to hear her voice again. But I still dont know what to do...She knows I care about her alot...She told her mom and her brother and I'm sure her dad knows. Its just been soo long since I've cared/loved anyone this much.
Touche Posted August 12, 2006 Posted August 12, 2006 Nineteen year old girls rarely know what they want. Sounds like you're moving way too fast.
Confusedt33n Posted August 13, 2006 Posted August 13, 2006 The age factor, I personaly do not think age is a factor if you love someone. Do what you got to do, keep in mind she is a lot younger and she might not want to move fast.
MsArtful Posted August 13, 2006 Posted August 13, 2006 I agree with the others that you should take things slow. Also consider that it might not be love you are feeling but lust or infatuation, since you have not known her that long. Yes she is young and beautiful, but do you actually have much in common? Ease up on her, she has just recently come out of a relationship.
Author jeffrey746 Posted August 13, 2006 Author Posted August 13, 2006 Thanks all for responding. Theres obviously more to it than whats written but its really not just a passing thing or me being blinded by her beauty. You see we do have alot in common, the same music, I ski and she snowboards, I like to watch gymnastics..shes a gymnast. We think alike, lol she takes the words out of my mouth, theres really just tons of little things. But for the 1st time in my life when she looks at me, I mean really looks and I see her doing it, I melt...I know its crazy. I havent really rushed anything...She really hates talking on the phone. She told me yet the times we talk on the phone its like 25 mins. Which isnt long long but its long for someone who is usually only on the phone for 3 mins to make plans. Anyways, I just wanted to type alittle more because I woke up missing her its such a nice day I wish she was here with me.
john2776 Posted August 14, 2006 Posted August 14, 2006 ok dude, your much older than her and its your responsibility to take the lead - if you don't she will see you as a wuss and then you are stuck in the friend zone for life. While I agree with other posters that you should take the relationship slow, I think you should jump in right now and start kissing her. BTW, the fact that her mother likes you is a bad thing - girls don't want to date the guys that their mothers like. They want exciting challenging guys; and when she says to you that you have nothing in common she is challenging you. Rise to the challenge - not with words, but with actions. Go to a concert together, go skiing, etc etc. The bad news is that as she is 19 the relationship may not work out. 19 yr old girls and 27 yr old guys see a lot of things differently. So take everything as it comes, and enjoy the time you have with her, but if you do want it to go somewhere (and I can read that you do!) you will have to steer.
gfto Posted August 14, 2006 Posted August 14, 2006 She told me we dont have much in common She isn't interested in you. A woman who sees you as a potential boyfriend isn't going to say to you, "we don't have much in common."
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