kellyp1 Posted August 12, 2006 Posted August 12, 2006 So the guy I was seeing went on this tirade that he did not want a relationship right now and that we were going to work on being friends. So, we made plans when he was in the area to hang out. He called the night before our already made plans (he was in the area for a week from work) and invited me to come hang out. Told me he had missed me and we ended up hooking up. The next day, he tries to cancel our hanging out, blaming it on bad traffic. He was staying by the airport so he could fly home the next day. Well, I convinced him to come out (he lives several states away and is not out here very much at all) and we met halfway to hang for awhile. He was acting kind of strange and seemed different. He mentioned several times that men and women could not really be friends. When we went to leave he gave me a loose hug and I gave him a kiss on the cheek. When I called him after he got home on it (was really wondering if we were friends based on his comments) he got really upset and said his other friends don't act like I do. I am trying to get it into his head that he does not sleep with his other friends or have the same history. Anyway, what ended up happening is that he feels things are too emotional and a waste of his time and so our friendship attempt is over. Here is the quote he sent me - wise men in my life always told me to do what's best for myself and don't worry about other people. I think it is a f-ed up quote. Why is friendship so disposable nowadays? And what wise men believe that you should not have any concern for other people? I want to tell him off but realize it is best just to walk away. It hurts a lot though. I thought he was someone else but I guess not.
bluechocolate Posted August 13, 2006 Posted August 13, 2006 Why is friendship so disposable nowadays? Were you friends in the first place? Most people find it difficult to go from lovers to friends straight away. Especially if the break-up wasn't a mutual decision. I want to tell him off but realize it is best just to walk away. Yes, walk away. Telling him off might make you feel better for a moment but in the end will acheive nothing. Count yourself lucky he's in another state - you won't be running into him any time soon.
ejc317 Posted August 13, 2006 Posted August 13, 2006 Yeah my ex will be living 2 floors above me for the next 9 months - .... i am REALLY hoping we get back together or it'll be terrible
konfuzd Posted August 13, 2006 Posted August 13, 2006 His "wise men" sound like his drunken college mates. I'd reply back saying, "wise women in my life always told me that what goes around comes around" If that's truly a quote he lives by, he's not worth your time and efforts.
Author kellyp1 Posted August 13, 2006 Author Posted August 13, 2006 I am glad to see it was just not me reading into it wrong. He will regret his moves but I am not going to contact him again. Not worth it. Your response not only made me smile (I embrace my smart a$$ side often) but helped put things into perspective. He is still a boy obviously and not ready to handle an adult friendship. Thanks!
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