leopardprint Posted August 12, 2006 Posted August 12, 2006 So it's hit the one month mark of the break up, and I'm beginning to pack up all the things I've collected through this relationship these past couple of years and putting them away in the imfamous "ex" box, to be stoeed and never seen again. I was just wondering... what's the right thing to do with some of the more paticular "stuff" I've built up these past two years? Obviously, I'm putting the stuffed animals, drawings, letters, pictures, etc., into a box and storing them away for good. However, there are a few things I'm not sure what to do about. I have a bunch of clothes of his; some of which he gave me, and others I think he left over by mistake or just let me borrow if I was cold and forgot to give back. There's a really nice sweater that he gave me to keep warm once when I was sick at his place, but I accidently took it with me (we were in an LDR). Should I ship that, and some of the other t-shirts he left over my place on visits, back to him? Then there's the biggest question: the promise/pre-engagement ring (14kt white gold band, with a row of 10 diamonds on it - about 0.10 tcw). One time, a WHILE ago when we had gotten into a heavy spat, I had mentioned if he wanted it back. In a way, it KILLS me to see it sitting on my finger, and all it does is remind me how happy he was with me THEN, and how unhappy he is with me NOW, and the promise he made to me. I know it was VERY expensive as well, and I feel bad that he wasted that promise and money and ring on me. Like I said, I've asked him awhile back if I should send it back to him, and he replied, "No. I WANT you to have it. I bought it for YOU." But I also feel that was before he had a real idea of breaking it off. It hurts to see it on my finger, but at the same time, I feel bad about how much it cost him, and I guess he could always give it to someone who he really cares for and deserves it in the future. BUT, at the same time, I would hate to give it up, because it DOES mean so much to me - but it will most likey get stored away if I keep it with all the other "stuff".
bluechocolate Posted August 13, 2006 Posted August 13, 2006 The stuff he 'gave' to you is yours. If you don't want it, trash them or donate them to a charity. As for the clothes that are his: Why not drop him a note or an email & ask him? If you don't want to do that, then yes, pack 'em up & ship 'em back to him. If the ring was definitely an engagement ring then, in my opinion, it should go back to him. Generally the law says so too. If it was gift, it's yours. Personally I don't see the point in keeping something like that in a box in the attic. Have it re-set or sell it.
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