Guest Posted August 12, 2006 Posted August 12, 2006 So i broke up with my ex about 2 weeks ago. I told her I still wanted to be friends and she seemed ok with that. But whenever we hung out she acted/did things that seemed like we were still together. I.E. Touching me, holding my arm, calling me every 3 hours, etc. I just ignored it, thinking that she'll stop doing it after awhile. I thought that she would get over it. BUT, today she gets me alone and asks me to take her back. She asks me to give her another chance. Of course i tell her no bcuz i already started to move on. She starts crying and begging me to give her another chance. I don't want to bcuz if i did i would just be lying to her. And everything would just end up getting worse. I asked advice from my friends and they said that the only way to let her move on is to totally cut off contact with her. Which is kinda hard because we have the same friends and we see each other almost everyday because we're both big church ppl (we both go to church almost everyday). Plus, sometimes when she gets really sad she goes crazy and starts having breakdowns and starts saying things like she wants to just kill herself and things like that. So I'm afraid that if i do cut off contact, she'll go and do something extreme like that. So what should i do?? Please help...this was my first REAL relationship and my first breakup. Im a noob to relationships. =(
Sally00 Posted August 13, 2006 Posted August 13, 2006 When I broke up with my ex, we were still friends. It was a little hard at first... because we both still flirted and kinda acted like we were still together. Two weeks is a pretty new break-up... so I don't really blame her for the way she's acting. She is not ready to be friends with you. I agree with your friends... stop talking to her, stop seeing her. So you go to the same church... ok. Nothing wrong with saying hi... or sitting AWAY from her. You can go to the same church and not talk to her. If you really don't wanna see her because of the way she's acting, you can always go to another church (that's what my boyfriend did with his ex). If you're really afraid she's going to kill herself over something like this, tell her that she can't be acting like this. If she really wants to be friends with you, she just needs to plain stop being so dramatic. Act like a FRIEND and not a GIRLFRIEND. Or else this will be a pretty hard friendship.
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