chondo Posted August 12, 2006 Posted August 12, 2006 Hello all! I hope that some of you have some advice for me on this: Two months ago my new friend Sarah brought up the possibility of going into business with each other. This came as a flattering surprise especially since I have only really 'known' Sarah for about 8 months but we have one of those strange (but rare) friendships that seems like we have known each other forever. To add to this, we have had many times in the past where our paths have almost crossed - the timing was off though - fate was ALMOST on our sides. We both have tons in common (with our personality, interests and background) and seem to work great as a team. We also compliment each other well - taking over where the other leaves off. There is always lots to talk about and we both appear extremely comfortable around each other. From the start I knew I had a very strong platonic attraction towards her. I would describe this as an extreme comfort being around her: I could spend all day doing anything or talking about anything with her and be super happy and comfortable; these feelings are way beyond sexual (even though she is very attractive). Since she has been married for two years (and I am single), I felt it would never really be appropriate to mention this to her. I also felt that mentioning this might compromise our working opportunities and/or make her feel very uncomfortable. So I wasn't planning on saying anything - why complicate things and possibly ruin a friendship, right? Today we were having some funny discussions about the astrological return of Saturn (I don't really ever give this much thought, but both of us are 29 and seem to be going through the personal upheaval mentioned by this Saturn stuff). Later, after much coaxing on my part for her to spit out her obvious pent up thoughts (it was VERY obvious she had something big on her mind but wasn't going to say anything direct), she said she has a CRUSH on me. Well, then I spilled the beans and said I felt the same way and that I liked her also. I think we both feel better that this is out in the open, but WHAT NOW???? Can we still work together? Will I end up ruining her marriage (even if it might not be so great at the moment)? Can people go on with things as 'normal' with this fact out in the open? I totally agree with NOT keeping these emotional things all pent up, but this could get interesting. Any advice or ideas? I'll hopefully write more later. THANKS!!!!!
P1xie Posted August 12, 2006 Posted August 12, 2006 I would personally have a hard time...especially since the truth is out. What if things progress then regress. How is that going to effect your future business? How could you not pursue something romantically if you already know she likes you? Is she willing to give into her crush of you. I tend to think that you should keep friends, lovers, and family out of business it usually turns ugly. Not all the time, I don't know the stats on it.
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