CANDYGIRL3 Posted August 11, 2006 Posted August 11, 2006 I've been married for 4 years and been together with my husband for 10 years. For the last 2 years I have been dreaming about my ex-boyfriend ALOT and would wake up really happy and think about him all day and then the next day I would stop until I would dream about him again. Last week I dreamt about him 3 days in a row and decided to call him to make sure everything was okay with him because I felt it was a sign. So something was up with him, he was into hardcore drugs and just got out of rehab. After talking just as friends, we started texting each other and got more personal and remembering the good time we used to have. Then we finally met for lunch yesterday and made out in the car. Later that night I called him to meet for a minute just so I could see and kiss him. I am really scared and confused because I feel like I have deep feelings for him. He was my first love and I lost my virginity to him. I feel like he is my soulmate, all I do is think about him. It's really hard for us to talk cause he has a girlfriend of 4 years and our schedules just don't seem to match. But whenever we get the chance to talk we do. I am not happily married and he is not happy either, but we both have children with the other. I feel like I am falling for him, all I do is think about him and just want to talk to him all day and all night. I would really like some advice or other peoples similar stories. Thank you.
quankanne Posted August 11, 2006 Posted August 11, 2006 do not take this as a slap in the face remark, but unless you're willing to invest time in your marriage (counselling, therapy, etc) so you and your husband can build something better, you really, really need to let the guy go so he can have a fair chance at a relationship with someone who wants to be with him, not in a marriage with a woman who has her mind and heart elsewhere. You're not doing either of you any favors by staying in a marriage when you feel someone else is your soulmate.
Brittjean06 Posted August 12, 2006 Posted August 12, 2006 I don't see how your marriage could possibly go on from here. This isn't just a Crush over someone. This is you still having deep feelings for someone way in your past. I don't think you will be able to dismiss those feelings. Obviously you never got over your ex( first love ). You already cheated on your husband I would really think hard about your marriage and if its worth it. If it was I don't think you would go this far with someone else. Do you not have those in love feelings for your husband ?
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