wump Posted August 11, 2006 Posted August 11, 2006 I met this girl about three months ago at work. She was new to the city and she was 7 years younger than me. Regardless of the age difference, We instantly hit it off and we would innocently flirt with each other. However, she would never go out with me outside of work. she always needed someone she knew to be with her. On occasion she would invite me over to drink with her firends. I wasn't offended by this becuase she refused go out with everybody at work and she said that I was the only person she said she wanted to know. At first I thought that maybe she was interested in me becuase many of the signs were there but then she would mention she was inviting a guy over that she met at a bar or she would mention how much she like her brothers best friend back home. So, I just assumed we were friends even though other people thought something was going on. Then everything got strange. I was pissed off at her one day becuase it seemed as though she was going out of her way to get under my skin. Once she could see that I was upset she was very concerned, wanted to know what was wrong, and phoned me the next day to apologized. She told me she was very worrried that I wouldn't want to have anything to do with her and she told me that it upset her that I was in a bad mood. From this point on for the next few weeks she was completely different. She wouldn't talk to me or joke around. I would ask her repeatedly what was wrong yet she would always say the same things to me: I don't want to talk about it, I have nothing to say to you, It has nothing to do with you. So after a week, I decided to give her some space and hopefully she would snap out of her mood. I didn't ignore but I didn't go out of my way to be super friendly either. Then she got upset, left work, and phoned to say she was going back home. Since we were friends, I was only person she got to know here, I gave her a call and she was different, vague about things, and mentioned she was going to tell her brother's friend that she wanted to be his girlfriend. So I asked if she would like to have beer with me before she left and she told me to call her. So when I did call her, I got the she is in the shower excuse and she left without saying goodbye. I just don't understand. We seemed to have some sort of connection between us but then she seemed as though she was trying to push me away?
rina_r Posted August 11, 2006 Posted August 11, 2006 I just don't understand. We seemed to have some sort of connection between us I think the connection is only in your head...
Sand&Water Posted August 11, 2006 Posted August 11, 2006 Since we were friends, I was only person she got to know here, I gave her a call and she was different, vague about things, and mentioned she was going to tell her brother's friend that she wanted to be his girlfriend. She was trying to make you jealous. [i.e. telling you that she is interested in her brother's friend; better than you bailying out on her] She thought that by telling you this, you'd come running about to her, holding her, and expressing how you truely feel about her. Didn't happen. So I asked if she would like to have beer with me before she left and she told me to call her. She relied on you to show a stronger side of yourself, but you didn't. [iMO] she was disappointed in you for asking her out for beer. Instead, she might have wanted lunch/dinner where both of you could talk and you'd step up to the plate, and show you're manliness.
rina_r Posted August 11, 2006 Posted August 11, 2006 she was disappointed in you for asking her out for beer. Instead, she might have wanted lunch/dinner where both of you could talk and you'd step up to the plate, and show you're manliness. Hmm, i would prefer beer.
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