jgaz3124 Posted August 11, 2006 Posted August 11, 2006 Ok here is what happened my ex and I just started talking after he ignored me for a couple of days. And we even decided that we would meet up soon for coffee. Well yesterday night I called him and he didn't answer which was ok at the time but then a couple of hours went by and he never called back. So I called him 2 more times and left him 2 text messages. There again he never called back. So this morning I called him while he was on his way to work and he didn't pick up. I kept calling and writing text messages asking him if he was ignoring me and why would he not answer so finally he answered and was pissed that I kept calling. He told me that his phone was under his seat and he didn't hear it ringing. I told him I was sorry that I was just freaked out that he was ignoring me again after us talking had been going good. Now I know what everyone is thinking that calling him makes me look like a pyscho. And beleive me I feel like one. The thing is, is that I love him and I know I want to get back with him and have a second chance. But to do this we need time apart to make things better. I really don't want to mess up with him by calling all the time and freaking out when he doesn't call me back. So can you guys tell me what stuff you do when you have an anxiety attack and the impulse is so strong to call that even though you know you shouldn't and will regret it you do anyways. Keep in mind that I do call friends but lets be honest I am not going to bug my friends at 6 in the morning for this stuff so I mean when you don't have your freinds what do you do? Any advice would help me alot.
bluechocolate Posted August 11, 2006 Posted August 11, 2006 Come to the realisation that you're calling is accomplishing the exact opposite of what you want to achieve - getting him back. What you describe is indeed psychotic. Why would anyone want to go out with a psycho?
AriaIncognito Posted August 11, 2006 Posted August 11, 2006 For one, if you get the urge to call him, don't. Call a friend. Talk to the family dog. IM someone. Tell someone you want to call him, they will more than likely talk you out of it and/or talk sense into you. Whenever I have the urge to make contact, I do that. He broke it off with me, saying he wanted to be friends. So whatever, ball is in HIS court, not mine, and it certainly does me no good to pester him with calling or whatever. If he wants to be friends or try again at the relationship, well i'm sure he knows where to find me. In the meantime, I'm doing all i can to get out there and meet people and move forward. You should go by these same thoughts. He obviously knows how to get a hold of you. Yes, it will hurt for a while to not contact him, but then eventually, it seems normal when you're no longer used to the daily contact. I went from talking to him for literally hours every day on the phone, to nothing. You can too. I promise... Jennifer
Mollyanna Posted August 11, 2006 Posted August 11, 2006 I left 4 voice mails and 17 text messages in 2 days for my ex one weekend after a fight. Here is what I eventually did to stop myself. I can't say they are the best methods of coping, but they worked for me. 1. left the house and did not take my cell phone. grocery store, walking, clean my car, post office, Walmart. anything I could think of. 2. when feeling overly anxious, i took a nap. yes, I was sleeping a lot 3. Made myself believe that he was making fun of me to all of his friends, calling me a psychotic b*tch. and of course, i spent hours and hours on LS.
loveinlife Posted August 11, 2006 Posted August 11, 2006 Wow Mollyanne and Jgaz3124, this exactly what I am feeling right now. right now. I want her so bad. The more I think about her, the more I want her and the more I can't have a piece of her, such as talking or meeting up. The more impatient I become. SO MUCH ENGERGY and fuel for more, really feel ambitious. Any advice?
richardcruz Posted August 11, 2006 Posted August 11, 2006 Come to the realisation that you're calling is accomplishing the exact opposite of what you want to achieve - getting him back. What you describe is indeed psychotic. Why would anyone want to go out with a psycho? This is true. A bit psychotic; yes, but don't feel to bad for doing so. Instead learn from it and don't repeat the same mistake. Losing a loved one makes you do some weird sh*t. We all deal with losses differently. Exes will give you a million excuses as to why they didn't pick up you call, and you will force yourself to believe each and every one of them after your breakup because you want them back regardless of how they are treating you. But eventually you will get fed up with the bs and you'll stop pursuing something that isn't there anymore. This can take days, weeks or even months. Jgaz, it really sounds like this guy isn't giving you the respect you deserve and is just stringing you along. I would completely stop calling him. You decide how long its going to take you to get fed up with the BS. Don't settle for less. I'm sure you know damn well that he could have easily picked up anyone of your calls. You deserve more than excuses. Let him go.
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