SUMMER 1969 Posted August 11, 2006 Posted August 11, 2006 Has anyone ever taken any kind of anti depresents to get over a loved one? I was on them about 2 years ago and then I stopped taking them when I met my ex... Now I wish I was back on them to numb the pain.. I just really feel like my world is crashing down on me.. My cat of 12 years died a few months ago, I have a broken foot, I can not work right now , lost my boyfriend, and now I may have cancer.. I go and get a byopsy on Tues and I am so scared... I just feel like I can not handle things anymore.. I feel like at anytime I am going to have a break down... I have never felt this shi_ty in my life.. I am 29 years old and I am just so sick of it.. I really just want to throw the towel in.. I just don't know what to do anymore..
Alexandra Posted August 11, 2006 Posted August 11, 2006 It does sound bad indeed, sorry to hear it. Still you do know that "this too shall pass". Anti-depressants are not for getting over an ex. Neither are they to get over a conjecture of bad situations coming over someone all at once. "I really just want to throw the towel in... " does indeed sound like a statement someone who is depressed makes, however, feeling down temporarily for factual reasons is not depression. Why were you prescribed those before the boyfriend? Is there a way you can see the same therapist or at least another one for a check-up? If you do get that check-up with the professional and she/he says it's not depression then what would help is a very strong support system -family, friends, people you trust and who care about you- and a conscious effort to stay positive, strong and devise new goals for yourself. Treating this like it is, a crisis, not an expression of what the rest of your life shall be like, should also pay off. Good luck on Tuesday, I'm sure it will be good news.
Author SUMMER 1969 Posted August 11, 2006 Author Posted August 11, 2006 I was on the Anti- depresents before.. I was with a man for 7 years and we were engaged, had a wedding date and all.. I built my world around his and then he left me for another woman.. I attempted to kill myself and ended up in the hospital.. So I was given anti depresents.. As of right now I do not have insurance so I can not afford to go and see the doctor again, I have a morgage and all the other fun bills. I have a few bottles of my ( as I call them ) happy pills, so I was going to just start taking them again..
Mollyanna Posted August 11, 2006 Posted August 11, 2006 That's what I did, I started taking some of my old ones. (But how OLD are yours? check the expiration date.) I am feeling pretty good, but they aren't a magic cure. They take a couple of weeks to kick in. I am just hoping mine are in full effect when it gets to be PMS time, because I KNOW I will be crying then!
Author SUMMER 1969 Posted August 11, 2006 Author Posted August 11, 2006 They are not exp, so I know I am okay there.. I just want to get better, I feel like crap, everytime I wkae up he is the first thing on my mind..
2020vision Posted August 11, 2006 Posted August 11, 2006 I have never felt this shi_ty in my life.. I am 29 years old and I am just so sick of it.. I really just want to throw the towel in.. I am sorry that you are going through what you are, a cancer scare is no fun. I know from experience. However, I do not think anti-depressants are the answer. Try counseling first. You can become dependent on them and that is no good. Finding someone you fall in love with should not be a cure for depression either. You should love yourself and your life by yourself before you find yourself in a new realtionship. I built my world around his and then he left me for another woman.. Remember, the more you build your world around some one, the more they take away from you when they leave... Best Wishes, 2020
Author SUMMER 1969 Posted August 11, 2006 Author Posted August 11, 2006 I understand that you can not build your world around your lover, and after that realtionshio eneded a few years later I met the guy that told me he does not love me.. The problem is, when I do meet a man that I have fun with and I care about I always seem to make them 1st on the list.. I would work around his schudle all of the time, I would blow my friends and family off for him.. I don't know why I do that, I am a very stubborn person and I am pretty honest with people.. I am usually not a push over until I fall for that man.. Why is it that I do that? I can not afford counsling, as I do not have insurance and I am not working right now since I have a broken foot.. Its like I have to much time on my hands right now and all's I do is think.. Its funny, this man I was dating ( the one that told me he does not love me ) I am looking at the whole situation and I know that it was all about sex, and now I feel so empty.. If you read my other posts you will know the whole story.. I am scared to be alone, I hate living alone, and I don't even feel like doing anything.. I know I am really getting into a deep depresion and I can not seem to get out of this funk.. I just wish I never asked him how he felt about me until I can go back to work and until I find out if I do have cancer... I just can not deal with this anymore..
Ariadne Posted August 11, 2006 Posted August 11, 2006 Hi, My cat of 12 years died a few months ago, I have a broken foot, I can not work right now , lost my boyfriend, and now I may have cancer.. I go and get a byopsy on Tues and I am so scared... Oh, gosh! {{{Summer}}} Well, good luck with the results. Don't think the worst until someone actually tells you that. Hopefully you are young and it may be nothing to worry about. Btw, you can get counseling in the Community Clinics at a low cost. Check it out. Best of luck, Ariadne
2020vision Posted August 11, 2006 Posted August 11, 2006 I understand exactly where you are coming from. I have been in your exact position. I am living proof that you can someday enjoy being alone! I built my entire life around my ex boyfriend, he said jump and I said how high. It was horrible. But, you have to decide that you don't want to live your life like that. I remember feeling the same way. I fought with myself to be alone. I even got into a rebound realtionship after my break to fill the void that was left by my ex. It just takes time to recover. Its painful and I sincerely wish I had a magic potion or could wave a wand to make you feel better. There are no quick fixes to your problem unfortunatley. You have to work through the pain. I think all your problems come from lack of self esteem. You need to ask yourself why you allowed someone to tear you down like that, and get past that reason. You are at a low point in your life right now, but it will get better. I hope that your Dr. Appt. goes well... -Michelle
Author SUMMER 1969 Posted August 11, 2006 Author Posted August 11, 2006 I really think I do have a self esteem problem.. I always have, I think it was from my childhood. I am 29 years old and I am so scared that I will be alone.. I am not a ugle and I know I have a good personality, I just have a problem with boyfriends.. I feel like I am weird for the fact that I am going to be 30 with no kids and have never been married.. Do you think this is normal? Then on top of all of this, if I do have cancer I am just going to freak out.. I am so scared and I feel alone.. I have many good friends, and I am very lucky for that, but I feel like I am alwways talking about the same stuff.. They all give me good advise, but for some reason nothing is clicking in my head.. Its like I can say what the problem is but I can not accept it for some reason.. How do you make yourself accept something when my heart will not let me??
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