lostindreamland Posted August 11, 2006 Posted August 11, 2006 i have a serious dilema. i can't get my ex-husband out of my mind!! i am happily re-married now, for 7 years, to a wonderful man. he has sacrificed a lot for me and the kids. he adores me and lets me do pretty much whatever i want to. now here comes the kicker, i started thinking about my first H out of the blue!! i came across some pics of H1 and i at our wedding. after that, he was all that i could think about. we have been divorced now for 12 years, but stayed in touch every so often. i haven't talked to him in 4 years and now all i want to do is talk to him and saee how he feels. he is a very rational person and he would let me know what i was doing before i made any mistakes. i love my husband, but he doesn't give me enough emotionally. i have tried to tell him what i need from him, but he seems to forget within a few weeks. H1 put me on a pedistal and worshipped me. if i said run around the world in 5 minutes, he would have tried it. i was just too young at the time. i was scared that someone could love me that much. so i made our lives miserable and left before he could hurt me. like i said, young. now , for the first time, i am second guessing my decision to leave him all those years ago. if i hadn't, i wouldn't have my 2 beautiful kids and a great husband. i just don't know why this happened now. i have seen pics of the wedding before. as i said, i haven't even talked to him. i feel like i am doing something wrong because i do love H2. i just don't think that i am getting all that i need. please give me some advice on this. how to forget H1 or how to get what i need fgrom H2 thank you!!
LakesideDream Posted August 12, 2006 Posted August 12, 2006 You had a guy that worshiped you, and traded him in for a man who is indifferent. That is a twist. I think it's time to dig deep and try to "worship" your current husband. Spend ten years or so doing that and maybe you can balance the scales. Karma's can be a real bitch. Your story will give others a great deal of comfort.
Brittjean06 Posted August 12, 2006 Posted August 12, 2006 yeah but you were also young? How young for you? Yet karma still serves everyone.
LakesideDream Posted August 12, 2006 Posted August 12, 2006 Not getting "what you need" from H2, so it's time to start up with H1 again. How about his current wife? Your current husband. As posted before, maybe it's something lacking in YOU. Maybe you are not trying hard enough with H2. This is all about being selfish. You have fantasies of leaving H2, ruining another family (or two) and living "happily" ever after with H1 and H2's kids. Grow up. You made your decisions, live with them. If you can't, and just want to please yourself, don't look to others, or a message board for justification. It's no "seeing wedding pic's" it's your selfishness. Forget the drama and live your life the best you can.
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