Abercrombie Posted August 10, 2006 Posted August 10, 2006 What do I do? Try to see her in person and tell her, message her them, or just keep it all bottled in and forget about it? I sit here day and night and think about all the things that I need to tell her. Alot of things she doesn't know, and alot of others things that I have never told anyone, which ties into why there were some problems. What to do?
Chinook Posted August 10, 2006 Posted August 10, 2006 If it will change anything, then why not..? But if it won't then I wouldn't bother.
superconductor Posted August 10, 2006 Posted August 10, 2006 What do you expect to accomplish by spilling all this stuff to her? Answer that first, then weigh the odds of success, and let that be your guide.
Chinook Posted August 10, 2006 Posted August 10, 2006 He said it better than me... that's what I meant too.
vlhs004 Posted August 10, 2006 Posted August 10, 2006 i felt the same way when my ex broke up with me . . .. i tried to get her back for a long time and everytime i hung up i thought of something new i needed to say . .. so finally i sat down i wrote down everything i needed to tell her so i wouldnt keep thing "what if she didnt know how i feel" . . things like that . .. so i emailed her one last time and told her everything and that was it . . .i felt much better after that and im starting to get over it and feel much better that i got everything out in the open
johnnytable Posted August 10, 2006 Posted August 10, 2006 Make sure you aren't doing something selfish by spilling all over them. They probably don't really need to hear what you have to say, rather you are just feeling the need to tell them. See the difference?
superconductor Posted August 10, 2006 Posted August 10, 2006 Some people are under the delusion that if they get all honest and feeling and spill everything, they'll have "closure." It's a lie. There's no such thing as closure. It's just a psychobabble way of saying that you want the last word.
Guest Posted August 19, 2006 Posted August 19, 2006 Four months ago, my bf was in the same situation, and he told me a whole bunch of stuff that i did not need to know and it made our great relationship horrible. We are on a break right now because it ruined everything. There was nothing to be accomplished by him tell me stuff besides him being selfish and feeling a little better knowing that i would feel a million times worse. So make sure that something good can come of it before spilling the beans
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