NyDirtDog Posted August 10, 2006 Posted August 10, 2006 Okay here is the deal. I met this girl and I can clearly say we "vibe" on a unbelievable level. We both have admitted it and we know how each other thinks. Her Background, married for 5 years, divorced now for 1 year or so from her cheating ex and has a child. Now I have no problem with her situation and she is totally real with me. She told me she has alot baggage and not ready to be in a relationship. I say cool, I got you! Yet everytime we hang out we either hook up, Kiss, lay with each other, she finds reason to touch me, etc. I mean its to the point where I say lets grab a drink and dont expect anything, next thing you know we are kissing like its no ones business. Did I mention that we talk to each almost every night! Not like I call her every night but equally she call as well as I. We talk with no problem. hell Now heres the twist, while all that happens on a regular basis (all natural), she also says that anything she doing, does'nt make me special i.e. any of the kissing, phone calls, hanging out, she do for anyone else shes cool with. Now I have no reason to thinks she seeing anyone else, but then again it would'nt matter cause she single. She can do whatever she wants and vice versa. She not the type to have multiple partners, etc. and has no problem being honest with me and tells me the truth about everything. So heres the question, hopefully the ladies can shed some light =). Am I just a filler? like okay I am good enough for all this but, really I dont see it becoming anything soon or in general. Maybe another guy will pass by and she will hook up with him. or My theory is she wants to get to know me, which is cool. She wants to feel me out because of the how he ex messed with her. I think her uncertainty with that leads her to want things with me but tell me it is'nt anything because she does'nt want me to deal with her drama. In otherwords, she likes me but she cares enough to not have me deal with her drama because she thinks its something that would get to me or us if we were serious. Feel free to tell me what you think and dont hold back!! Im cool with the "truth" . I cant say I know everything and feedback would be appreciated! NyDirtDog
everybody_chill Posted August 10, 2006 Posted August 10, 2006 I went through a very similar situation. I have learned that if a woman says she does not want a relationship, it is trouble. That's a red flag that tells me something is going on in her mind which I do not want to deal with. Personally, I would run. But then again I have learned to take zero crap from women. Sure she's cute and fun, but I just don't see the point of dating unless you are looking to find a partner.
gfto Posted August 10, 2006 Posted August 10, 2006 I have learned that if a woman says she does not want a relationship, it is trouble. That's a red flag that tells me something is going on in her mind which I do not want to deal with. Exactly! It means she isn't very romantically interested in you, even though she's having sex with you.
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